5-Signs You Are Holding on to the Past for Dear Life

You did it.  You took the first step and left him behind and I want to congratulate you for the courageous step you took when you left your toxic, emotionally abusive partner.

It was a bad relationship and you were consistently criticized, bullied, ridiculed, and abandoned. You decided that it was time to say goodbye to the person and walk out the door.  You decided you want and deserve a better life. 

But there's a problem that's standing in your way of a your new, life and happiness:  You are holding on to your Past for Dear Life.

5-Signs that You are Guilty of Holding On:

1. You won't stop talking about it.  The incident I mean.  You want to tell everyone who will listen and even those who don't want to but are stuck! 
2. You fully embrace your victim label.  You hold onto your story and keep telling it so you can rationalize your "victimness" and hang on to it for dear life.
3. You haven't moved forward.  Not one little step.  You can only be a validated victim if you stay right where you are.
4. You haven't set any new goals.  No new action steps to change your life.  You haven't set a dream or rekindled a passion.  Nothing.  Just stuck.
5. You are losing friends, family, colleagues and acquaintances.  People are jumping ship.

When you leave a toxic, painful relationship, you leave with scars on your heart but you also leave with your Free Will to Create a Life You Love.  But in order to embrace your new happiness and heal your scars, you have to leave your story in the past. You have to let go of your victim; she's holding you back.

The most common reason for hanging on for dear life is familiarity.  It is a familiar place to be.  You are a victim and there is safety in that label.  If you hang on to your story and your hurt then no one else can get in and do it again. 

It's scary to let go of something familiar and let yourself fall freely into your new chapter.  But it is the best and only thing to do when you want to embrace and love yourself unconditionally.

While you're holding on to your "victim", you are closing off a space for your victor to flourish. Victors love themselves unconditionally.  They recognize that they have taken big, bold, courageous steps to freedom and they celebrate their tenacity.  Victors thrive and create a life that has meaning to them. They wake up in the morning ready for their next adventure.  They are fully and completely alive.

Victors know what they want, what is acceptable and how they will achieve their goals.

Your Victor Blossoms When You Release Your Victim

I cannot express to you the joy and the fun you will have in your life when you decide to let your victim go! There is no future in holding on!

I know it's scary but you are worth the plunge.  Once you let the victim go, you will begin to see all the possibilities that are available to you.  And your hands and heart will be open to grabbing on to them. 

You're amazing and you're on your way to a fantastic life built by you, for you.

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Are You Ready to Thrive: Live Life Fearlessly?

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Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's a "Someday" Thing

Truth: People who are waiting for someday, will never reach their goals or experience their dreams.  Someday is an excuse not to take action!

When you are sitting back and saying "Someday I will leave my toxic relationship" or "Someday I will travel" or "Someday I will change jobs", you are effectively giving yourself permission to do nothing about your current situation because Someday doesn't exist!  It will never come so you remain stuck in your current and ongoing situation.

When you use "Someday", you're expressing your fear of change and the future.

Dare: Dump Someday from your vocabulary.  It doesn't belong in your life and will only hold you back from living a Big. Bold. Blissful. Life!

Write down one-big bold dream or goal that you want to make a reality. Give it a fabulous, sexy Name.  Now, Make a Date. Choose a specific Day to accomplish your dreamy goal.

Your Dream Goal Has a Name + You Can Look Forward to Your Date Together.

You are Closer to Success than You Ever Were.

7 day Challenge: 

Wake Up and Smile!

Put pen to paper & write down your big, juicy, 
dreamy goal.  

Give it a Fabulous, Sexy Name

Make a date with your dream goal.

Create a bunch of tiny small steps you will take to 
achieve your dreamy goal.

Make a date with each tiny step!

Celebrate every successful step you take along your path.

Feel Yourself Moving Toward Your Big Dream!

Make it a Great |Day!

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Are You Ready to Thrive: Live Life Fearlessly?

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Ready to Claim Your Big, Bold, Ballsy Life?

You had a dream and then life happened and then worry and stress crept in and sucked the life out of your dreams. No dreams + no inspiration = no motivation.

Sometimes life knocks you down and leaves you feeling depressed, challenged, overwhelmed, stressed and you start to believe that things will never change.

Thrive:  Live Life Fearlessly 10 Day Challenge is designed to reignite your inspiration + breakthrough your negative feelings.

You will finish the challenge feeling vibrant and ready to make each and every day a great day!

Let's get your Inspiration back! Time to reclaim your passion and look forward to achieving your dreams.

Take the challenge and reclaim your inspiration. 

You have one life - this one, right now!

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Challenge Starts June 1st

Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's an Intention Thing

Truth:  Waking up in the morning we have the opportunity to set our intention for the day.  Actually, it's a gift we are given.  You open your eyes, stretch and start your day. But here's the sad truth; the majority of people wake up and immediately have cranky negative thoughts.  I hate my job, work sucks, I'm broke, I hope that nasty woman doesn't phone today, I'm feeling fat, blah, blah, blah.  

When you wake up and immediately start your day thinking about all the perceived bad things in your life, you successfully set your intention for your day to negative and ugly. Guaranteed you will have an awful day!

Dare:  Wake up and set your intention to positive!  Wake up and smile - you're still here and that's a good start!  Smile and think about all the goods things that will happen today:  I'm meeting my friend for lunch, my boss is out of town for the day - woot woot, I'm going to make a plan to fix my finances, I feel good, I have good health, I will enjoy some great music on the way to work.  Set your intention dial to positive.  

7 day Challenge: 

Wake Up and Smile!

Set your intention dial to positive

Create 3 positive scenarios for the day and 

focus on those when your mood starts to turn negative

Make it a Great |Day!

My Personal Journey from Victim to Survivor to Thriver

It happened in a split second and I almost let it negatively change my life forever.  But I didn't and I'm so grateful.

I loved him and I trusted him and then he hit me and choked me and sexually assaulted me and cheated on me.  I was devastated. My world was crashing down around me and I felt betrayed, powerless, worthless and humiliated.

I found a small bit of the feisty me and charged him.  In Ontario, the police file the charges and he was arrested and put in jail.  And then the insult upon injury happened - his girlfriend bailed him out of jail!

So it ended. I was unceremoniously thrust into the label of "victim".  At the time it satisfied many of my needs. I could cry and whine.  I could drink excessively.  I could feel sorry for myself.  I could be self-destructive.  I could treat men like garbage.  I could be a righteous bitch. I could believe that it was okay because I WAS A VICTIM!

I had other negative labels that had been attached by "that guy" - loser, stupid, useless, ugly, fat, etc.  You catch my drift.

There I was stuck with labels and limiting beliefs that were certainly not the kind to live a vibrant and happy life.

I longed for the me that was free and confident and could do anything she set her mind too.  I wanted to find her again and love her and be her.  I wanted to fulfill my dreams.

Underneath all the labels I had acquired was "me" and I wanted her back.  I wanted to write new chapters for my life.  Chapters that were filled with happiness, brightness, joy, passion and life.

I wanted to reclaim my light spirit and I did.

I met a friend who dedicated her life to helping others and was very successful.  She told me that words have power and that by changing my words, I would begin to change my life and find the me I had lost.  

That day I changed my biggest negative label Victim to Survivor. Immediately, it had a positive impact on my behaviour and it boosted my self-confidence and my will to achieve my goals and dreams.

I was coming back.  I was scared to let go but I knew that I couldn't embrace new beginnings while I was hanging onto the past.

It was a journey and sometimes I felt I would never be able to live a life light of heart.  But I persevered.   I accepted the challenge and stepped into my life beyond the hurt.

I have successfully achieved many of my goals - learning to drive, graduating with honours from the University of Toronto, travelling and experiencing vibrant countries and falling in love again.

Me and my beautiful daughter on my wedding day!

It is possible to get your life back after a traumatic setback.  Not only can you get it back, it will be bigger and bolder than it was before.

I can confidently declare myself a "Thriver" who's loving life every minute of every day.

I let go of the past and

embraced my bright future.

About Susan Ball:  Susan inspires her clients to live the life of their dreams with passion, joy, and love. Susan is an experienced international Life Coach helping people Live a Baggage-Free Life.

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Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's a Nature Thing

Time for Tuesday Truth or Dare!

Truth:  Nature is all around us.  We are surrounded by natural landscapes, parks, trees and water.  Even when the weather is less than perfect, nature is still there.  We spend most of our time inside and away from nature.  Even when we step outside, we're looking at our cell phones and not our natural environment. If we're inside or looking at our phones, we won't benefit from the healing power of our natural world.  

Dare:  Go outside.  Leave all your electronic gadgets in the office, at home or in the car.  Take a walk to a park and sit on a bench.  Look around and really see and notice.  Listen and breath slowly.  Smile at passersby.  Feel the sun on your face or the cool breeze.  Focus on the moment ONLY!  Mark time in calendar every day that is reserved for quiet time in a natural setting.  Do it and you will reduce stress and increase your wellbeing exponentially.  It's well worth the investment.

About Susan Ball:  Susan inspires her clients to live the life of their dreams with passion, joy, and love. Susan is an experienced international Life Coach helping people Live a Baggage-Free Life.

Learn more about Susan by visiting her Online, on Facebook

Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's a Positive Thing

It's Tuesday! Let's play Truth or Dare

Truth - it is so easy to fall into the habit of using negative words. Negative words about yourself, someone else or life in general. Negativity has the snowball effect. When you roll with it, it grows larger and larger until it's out of control. Before you know it, your whole world is viewed through the lens of negativity.

Dare - use positive words. When you find yourself thinking or saying something negative, STOP, and ask what can I say that is positive. There is always something positive to say about yourself, someone else or your life.

Positivity Challenge - Leave a positively worded comment below. Challenge yourself to use only positive words, change your thoughts, change your words.

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About Susan Ball:  Susan inspires her clients to live the life of their dreams with passion, joy, and love. Susan is an experienced international Life Coach helping people Live a Baggage-Free Life.

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Single-Tasking or Overcoming Overwhelm

When was the last time you focused on one task and completed it without interruption?

I'll bet  it was quite a while ago and I'm confident in my wager.  My confidence is because I speak with clients everyday in my coaching practice who are struggling with "I'm overwhelmed".

They are average people with jobs, kids, spouses, parents, friends who volunteer and get involved with their children's activities.  Their calendars are filled with due dates, to do lists, task lists, and appointments.  Some of their planned activities actually overlap leaving not even one second from the end of one activity to the start of the next!

Is that even humanly possible?  Is it healthy?  Does it leave time for just simply enjoying life?  NO!

A common result of too much overwhelm and busy-ness, is procrastination.  It all becomes too much and there doesn't seem to be enough time to do anything.

Overcoming overwhelm begins by adopting "single-tasking".  The fine art of doing one thing at a time.  The ability to delegate or forget about it.

Running around like a chicken with your head cut-off filling in the demands of "everyone" except you is not only unhealthy it is unproductive and not sustainable.

Tomorrow look at your mega huge calendar of things to get accomplished and pick one - just one.  Write it down - I will do/finish/meet with/visit/enjoy this one thing.  Do not take on any new projects or appointments.  Break down your task into steps and achieve each step individually and do a good job so you can smile at your success.  

I have become committed to the idea of single-tasking and the health benefits in choosing to back away from the dreaded multi-tasking.  

I would love to hear if you are a single or multi-tasker.

Stress Awareness Week - September 8th to 14th, 2013

Stress is such an unnecessary part of our lives. Stress Awareness Week gives you the opportunity to learn and try new things to help understand, manage, and remove stress in our everyday lives.

Join us in September for the first annual Stress Awareness Week. There are all kinds of free classes and information sessions for you to take part in from JTW, the Cumberland YMCA, Hatha Yoga Room and more. As well as some great workshops

Schedule of Free Events

When What Where

Sunday Sept. 8th (1pm) - Sensory Walk (Susan Ball NLP) at Downtown Amherst
Sunday Sept. 8th (4pm) - Laughter Yoga ( Wallie Simieritsch) at JTW 
Sunday Sept. 8th (6:50pm) - Zumba (Jen) at the Cumberland YMCA

Monday Sept. 9th (8am) - Guided Meditation (Susan Ball NLP) at JTW
Monday Sept. 9th (12noon) - Reconnective Healing (Hazel Coates) at JTW
Monday Sept. 9th (6pm) - Group Hypnosis (James MacDonald CH) at JTW

Tuesday Sept. 10th (12noon) - Reiki (James MacDonald/Kim DiStatio) at JTW
Tuesday Sept. 10th (6:30pm) - Power Pump (Shawn) at the Cumberland YMCA

Wednesday Sept. 11th (8am) - Guided Meditation (Susan Ball NLP) at JTW
Wednesday Sept. 11th (12noon) - Reflexology (Kim’s Goddess on the Go) at JTW
Wednesday Sept. 11th (6:30pm) - Cyclefit (Jen) at the Cumberland YMCA

Thursday Sept. 12th (12noon) - Kangen Water (James MacDonald) at JTW 
Thursday Sept. 12th (5pm) - JTW Open House: Meet and greet with our practitioners

Friday Sept. 13th (8am) - Guided Meditation (Susan Ball NLP) at JTW
Friday Sept. 13th (7pm) - Gentle Yoga at the Hatha Yoga Room

Saturday Sept. 14th (10am) - Drumming Circle (Gretchen Smith) at Victoria Square


Workshops at JTW Natural Health Guidance Centre

Tuesday Sept. 10th: Authentic Self Workshop (Susan Ball NLP)
Time: 6pm Cost: $20

Wednesday Sept. 10th: Feng Shui: Clear Your Clutter, Clear Your Mind (Wallie Simieritsch)
Time: 6pm Cost: $20

Friday Sept. 13th: Authentic Self Teens (Susan Ball NLP)
Time: 3:30pm Cost: $15

Saturday Sept. 14th: Communicating with Children (Susan Ball NLP)
Time: 1pm Cost: $20


For more information or to register for any of these great events and workshops, please contact Charlene at 667-1119

Presented by: JTW Natural Health and Susan Ball NLP Success Coach

In partnership with: Cumberland YMCA, Hatha Yoga Room, Wallie Simieritsch, Gretchen Smith, 
Devine Meditations, Hazel Coates, Kim’s Goddess on the Go, Dianna Stewart

Do You Suffer From Anxiety, Fear, Panic.......

Then you are living in the future.  Worrying about the what-ifs and inventing negative outcomes to fulfill your desire to outline all the bad things that could happen!!

Anxiety is an emotion that sends our mind into the future. After all, nobody is anxious about the past, right? As human beings we tend to think in stories that are like mind-movies. Anxious mind-movies usually have a ‘what if?’ scenario.

So what winds us up into anxiety are particular thought patterns and stories. Take a look at the following list and see if any points seem familiar:

1. Self-doubts: Do you doubt your ability? Do you think you haven’t got what it takes, in order to succeed?

2. Wanting Control of the future: Do you want to control what happens in future? The truth is that even if we lay great plans, the unexpected can happen. Be flexible and flow with the change. 

3. High self-expectations: Sometimes we become our own slave-driver. Take time to step back and check out whether your expectations are realistic.

4. Fear of failure: Are you afraid to fail? The truth is that all learning entails failure. The greatest inventors in history failed more than they succeeded!

5. Not being present: This is a key factor of anxiety. When our thoughts dwell on the future, and we stop being truly present, that’s when we can become anxious.

These are all mental habits that can be changed in order to alleviate and transform anxiety into a healthy, positive mindset grounded in the present.

Anxiety is a natural alarm system that keeps us safe and productive. But when it becomes a chronic mindset, it will deaden joy and stifle creativity.  It will also lead to chronic physical illness, some of which can be life threatening.

Anxiety Busting Exercise

• Create two columns on a piece of paper

• Label the left column “fears”

• Create a thick vertical dividing line and label it “REALLY!!!!”

• Label the right column “fear busting thought”

I’ll give you an example:

I don’t think that I will get the promotion, sigh, stomach feels queasy because you're thinking about all the bad things that will happen if you don't get the promotion.

RESET = Shout STOP & take a deep breath (brain cannot think while deep breathing)

I have excellent skills to get the promotion and I will look into how I can improve those skills to ace the promotion.

Next Post:  Living in the Present....Til next time Recognize, Reset, Realize Your Potential

Do it Differently - Choose & Want It!

That's How Happy People Do It!

When was the last time you did something different?  Oh, it could be anything like a new route to work or watching a movie outside your comfort zone or joining a group to discuss books, politics, current events or wellness.

What stops you?  

Age?  Inspiration?  Confidence?  Family?  Time?   Money?   These are the common excuses used when I ask this question.  I'm sure you're familiar with all of them.

What if I told you the real reason that you have stopped doing it different, is an over-abundance of "shoulds" and "oughts" and "musts" in your everyday thoughts and language.

Let's start with Should and Ought and Must - my least favourite words and the first ones I get my clients to abandon.  Yup, I want should and ought and must left in the rain in an alley somewhere - gone, forgotten, abandoned!  

When you use the word "should", your body language actually changes - your shoulders hunch forward and you slouch.  Slouching closes off your breathing and as a result you start a pattern of shallow breathing instead of healthy deep breathing. 

Next comes that uneasy feeling - stress, anxiety, and guilt.  And the final feeling is one of resentment when you do complete the "should" or "ought"  or "must" task.

That's a lot of negative pattern behaviour because of three little over-used words.  You know a negative mood swing is about to hit you when you hear the words "should" or "shouldn't", "must" or "mustn't", "ought" or "ought not".  

These patterns of speech and our negative reactions go back to some authoritarian figure, a parent, a teacher, a neighbour, or a respected elder.  How many times did you hear "You should be doing your homework" and did you jump up off the couch with a smile on your face and go do your homework?  No, you slouched off the couch, probably put up a bit of an argument, and then went to your room, shut the door and maybe did your homework = Stress, Anxiety, Guilt and Resentment!

When you hear yourself using should, ought or must, challenge yourself by asking these easy questions:

What other choices do I have?  What would happen if I didn’t do it?

Or these questions for "shouldn't":

If you say, for example, "I shouldn't spend money on this", ask, Why shouldn't I spend money on this?  What would happen if I did?  What would happen if I didn't? 

Once you've answered the questions, you will know whether you "want" to complete the task, favour, or purchase and you will feel satisfied and happy with your decision.

When Should, Must and Ought shift to Want and Choose, you will feel that you have made the decision that you want to make and move forward towards completing the task in a light and positive manner.  And when that happens, you will feel so much better!  MOST IMPORTANT – if you choose do perform the should request you are now doing because you want to and from a position of power

Choose to it Differently by Questioning Should and Answering with Want!

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F.L.Y.

First Love Yourself!

You are the most important person in your life.  Think about - who's the only one guaranteed to be with you from the beginning to the end?

It's February the month of Love and I haven't seen any cards that say:  "To Me, I Love You!!"  "Hey You, You're Fabulous, Love Me xox" 

Wouldn't it be great if we made our own "I Love You" cards.  It could be done once a year or every month or every day.  You would use all your amazing creative talent and write your own love letter to yourself  and then take pride in your accomplishment. 

I wanted to add a note of levity to what is in fact a sometimes difficult journey - the path to loving and appreciating you for you will be bumpy and steep and so worth it when you reach your destination.

Follow these Simple Daily Practices to Begin Your Journey

Forgive yourself for past misdeeds.  There is no way to go back and change what you did or what you said.  Carrying it around like a ball and chain is a waste of valuable "you in the present moment" time.

Do Something Every Single Day that Makes YOU Feel Good!

Each Day, throughout the day, say to yourself silently or out loud:

"I love and accept myself exactly as I am."

When you hear critical self-talk and thoughts, silently shout "STOP" and then replace them with words of appreciation for yourself.

Use "I Am", "I Can" and "I Will" to describe yourself, your actions and your dreams.

Practice laughing at you when you make a mistake!

Click Self-Care Resources for more helpful exercises and tips!

Baby, It's Cold Outside

Welcome to winter in Canada.  We are experiencing a blast of arctic air that is set to stay with us for the next 10 days!  I may be proudly Canadian but these cold blasts can be miserable!

That being said, the cold snap got me thinking about my goals for the future.  Oh, I have several and I'm a firm believer in setting goals for your life, career, business, relationships and health.  Small goals that are easy to achieve and celebrate are my favourites.  Each day I celebrate a goal that I successfully completed.

Larger goals are wonderful but if you forget to create an action plan to achieve your big dream type goal you will begin to feel discouraged.  This may lead to giving up on your dreamy goal.

Today, I was looking out my picture window and I started to daydream and a new dreamy goal came to my mind.  My new goal - Every Winter I Will Spend a Minimum of 3-Weeks in a Hot, Hot, Tropical Climate.  Fabulous goal and I want it to be successful so I set about creating an action plan.  I will be in Costa Rica or other tropical paradise from January 22, 2014 to February 15, 2014....period.

My action plan created the steps I want to take to make my goal a reality.  First, finances - how much will I want?  I divided that amount by 52.  So much easier to look at dollar values when they are small and it makes it doable!

Second, what do I want to change in my business to ensure the extra funds are available.  I set about writing action steps to increase my income.

Third, hubby.  Okay, he pretty much loves whatever I plan so I'm good there.

Done!!  I set a goal and developed the action steps to make it a reality.  As a bonus, I created new and fantastic action steps to grow my business.

The benefits of Goal Setting and Creating an Action Plan are enormous.

So, get out your pen and paper, start daydreaming, jot down notes.  Dream big and choose one to make a reality.  You will have a new sense of accomplishment, confidence and an event in your future to look forward to.  How great is that!

Turn Resolutions to Accomplishments

New Year's "Accomplishments"

Oh, those pesky New Year's Resolutions, restrictive, untamed and with a big chunk of hope thrown in for fun. 99% of resolutions fail. Not a good statistic, I know and there are great reasons for the high failure rate.

• New Year's Resolutions are TOO BIG to handle for one person even if you believe you have gobs of will power.
• TOO MANY to Handle! Really, you're gonna lose 50 lbs by February 1st, quit smoking, stop drinking and be a nicer person all in one go?
• The resolution is worded Passively and Negatively. Surprise! I want to quit smoking; I want to lose weight; I want to blah, blah, blah.

Turn your New Year's Resolutions into New Year's Accomplishments!

Follow these simple tips and you'll be on the path to celebrating your Accomplishments before you can say Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious backwards!!

• Chunk it Down and Add Some Fun. Take the time to reflect on the one change you will make this year - Will you quit smoking? Will you eat more fruit & veggies? Will you travel? Will you enjoy every day? Will you dance in the street weekly on Thursdays?
• Pick One, Only One. Now you're focused on one change that you will achieve in 2013. Smile! You have taken the first step on your journey to success.
• Start with small steps to success. Today I will include one healthy vegetable side dish with dinner

• Smile even when faced with a challenge and make it a great day
• Replace soda with water
• Lace up my running shoes and walk for 10 minutes

• Change your language to be pro-active and positive - state your change in "I will, I can and I am". Saying you "want" to do something is wishy-washy and opens the door to the million excuses you're going to give when you don't succeed

Small step changes are realistic and manageable. Write your Statement of Success. Celebrate your successes every day. Your result will be a happy, healthier life where you congratulate yourself for meaningful successes rather than berate yourself for failure.

Here is my statement of success for 2013!

I am a nature lover and I will plan my days off to include enjoying the natural environment while relaxing and reflecting on my personal and career successes. I will wake up every day, smile and look forward to a new day with a sense of curiosity and adventure.

Happy New Year!!

Susan

NLP Life Coaching - Awaken Your Potential

Positivity is a Choice - You Choose It & You Create It

Positive Thoughts

are the way to deliberately attract what you want in life. When you choose to replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts, you will change yourself into a powerful magnet that attracts goodness, joy and abundance. You will discover greater happiness and the ability to focus on your potential and possibilities.



Your life right now is the result of everything you have done, believed, thought or felt up until this moment. You can start to consciously attract whatever you desire today and in your lifetime. Waking up and saying "I choose to make today a great day" will be your greatest achievement. You are always in the process of attracting something into your life - choose to make the attraction positive.

Here are 8 Changes that will add positivity to your everyday life:

1. Take the word "never" out of your vocabulary otherwise it will become your destiny! Simply put if you believe that you will "never" accomplish, do or be, then that is exactly what will happen. Look what happens when you delete "never" - I will never travel to Europe changes to I will travel to Europe - let the planning begin!
2. Stop "trying" and Start "doing" - to use the word try is to give youself the ability to fail. You can say you're going to "try": to change something about yourself or your life or you can simply do it. Take small action steps every day toward achieving your goal or desired change.
3. Smile. Smile. Smile. Smiling releases endorphins, little happy hormones that instantly change your mood and outlook to happy. How easy is that?
4. Surround yourself with Positive People. Negative people are a downer, plain and simple. We all know them but do we really want to keep them around? When you surround yourself with positive people, you create a circle of smiling, laughter, and good times living in the present.
5. Stop being a victim - You create your life - take responsibility. Even if your situation becomes unbearable, there is always a way out. You will always have the choice to make change happen, if need be.
6. Choose to inspire happiness for another by creating a random act of kindness and doing it. A random act of kindness is inexpensive and as easy as smiling and saying Thank You.
7. Stop Worrying, Over-Thinking, and Stressing. Your only outcome will be loss of energy, insomnia, bad mood and a negative outlook on your life. When you feel yourself worrying and stressing, mentally shout "STOP!", take a deep breath and re-frame your thoughts by focusing on positive, action steps that you can take to improve your situation.
8. List 5 things that you are grateful for right now

Just like Dorothy had the ability to go home - You have the ability to change your life.

Your Confidence Diary

A great way to boost your confidence is to keep a confidence diary.

It is a smart tool to just remind yourself just how good you really are and what you have to be thankful for and pleased about in your life right now.

Either buy yourself a notebook or a day to view diary and once a week for the next month I’d like you to jot down your answers to the following confidence questions.

Don’t give me any excuses about you haven’t got the time to do it!

Take just 10 minutes per week, sit down and jot down your thoughts to:

1.   What have I got to be grateful for in my life right now?

2.   What am I happy about in my life right now?

3.   Why am I happy about these things?

4.   What did I accomplish last week?

5.   What am I excited about in my life right now?

6.   Who do I love and appreciate in my life? Who do I like hanging around? Why?

7.   Who loves and appreciates me for what I am? Warts ‘n all!

Answer these questions at the start of each week and it will set you up for success.

If you need a booster midweek, then by all means answer them again whenever you want to feel centred and remind yourself of what you have got going for yourself in your life right now.

In addition, do this NLP Confidence Boosting Exercise...do it everyday and you will instantly notice a new you with a positive focus on you! 


When you approach your life confidently, you will make every day a Great Day and translate your outstanding individual potential into great success!


You are amazing - your life is filled with joy - Enjoy Every Minute!

Refocusing after setbacks

How many times have you started a diet, a new way of thinking, or tried something new and then a setback occurs and you just go back to the way you were?

Don’t worry, you are not the only one!

Setbacks and difficulties occur all of the time – they are a natural activity of life.

There are two ways of facing difficulties.

You either change or alter the difficulty or you can alter yourself to be able to deal with it.

Deal with difficulties correctly and it will enhance your confidence, deal with them incorrectly and they can do some serious damage to your self worth.

Your response to issues and difficulties

When you are faced with any setback your ability to deal with it can be turned around into a position of strength by asking yourself positive empowering questions.

There is an unwritten rule that says:

Ask your mind a stupid question and you will get a stupid answer!

So, if after setback you ask yourself something like

“Why does this always happen to me, I never have any luck?”

Your mind will probably come out with:

“Because you are useless and good things do not happen to you!”

Sound familiar?

Instead, if you ask yourself a positive empowering question like:

“What did I learn from this setback for next time?”

Your mind will kick into solution mode and help.

Here are some rules and things to think about when setbacks do occur:

·         Acknowledge that it has happened. Don’t hide from it. These things happen. So what?

·         What positive empowering questions can you ask yourself?

What is good about this situation?

How can I make the most of this situation?

What can I learn from it?

What are the facts about this problem?

How can we make it a successful outcome?

·         Acknowledge that setbacks occur to everyone and you are not being singled out.

·         View them as a challenge to overcome rather than an issue or problem

Think about the negative dis-empowering thoughts that you think on a regular basis after a setback.

What new empowering questions could you ask yourself to give some better answers!

Write these down now and make them a habit.


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