Blissful Self-Love 5 Day Challenge

I'm so excited to be hosting my Blissful Self-Love Challenge.  All the goodness starts on Monday, October 19th and it's totally Free!

For 5 days, I will send you emails with strategies, tips, and resources to boost your Self-Love, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth and Confidence.

You will Silence Your Inner Critic and Ignite Your Confidence.

Take the Challenge and Learn to Love You Unconditionally!

Join the Challenge

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Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's a Joy Thing

Truth: Life is meant to be enjoyed. Happiness is a beautiful, creative state of mind. Happiness is strongly linked to PLAY! Just look at children playing, they're laughing, smiling and joyful.  When you sit and watch a group playing any sport or game, they are completely living in the moment.  And Living in the Moment is where you want to be living.

As adults, we have lost touch with play and that's sad.  Our lack of spontaneous laughter, movement and engagement with others has led to increased levels of stress and depression.  

Playing is holistic medicine and it calls for a daily prescription. 

Dare: Add PLAY to your day. Dance. Skip. Be Spontaneous. Swing. Get a group of friends together for a game of good old-fashioned tag or touch football. There are many ways to add Play to your day. 

Yesterday, Charley (my wee dog) and I went to the park and I spontaneously decided to go for a swing.  It was amazing!  I smiled as soon as I started to go higher.  The kids joined in and we laughed and challenged each other. 

For the rest of the day, I felt energized and couldn't help but smile every time I thought about swinging in the fresh air.

7 day Challenge: 

Wake Up and Smile!

Commit to adding Play time 

to your day.

Sing, Move, Play catch at lunch, Sit on the Swings 

 

Plan a "Play Day" at work or with friends and family!

Sign up for a sport you played as a kid.  Get out there and play.

Make it a Great |Day!

How will you add PLAY to your Day?  

Add your ideas to the comments and let's begin to play and have fun and Smile.

A Big, Bold, Blissful Life Begins with I Am, I Can and I Will

Add Positive Power Statements to Your Daily Routine

Positive Power Statements boost your confidence which is the building block of your success and your ability to focus squarely on what you want to achieve, do, and be in your life.

Positive Power Statements put you in the driver's seat of your life!  They build your confidence + feed your desires and that equals you living a big, bold, ballsy life that you have designed just for you.

Not having self-confidence impacts every aspect of your life: 

• How you react to negative people 
• Whether or not you change careers
• Go back to school
• Leave a negative relationship
• Stand up for your authenticity and joy and happiness
• Actively participate in events, sports and with friends

Your self-confidence is your foundation and you build your life, success, happiness and pure joy on it.  If your foundation has weak spots, your ability to let go, chase your dreams and find pure joy in living, is significantly diminished!

To begin repairing your foundation, add these empowering statements to your daily routine:

Every day, twice a day, write Positive Power Statements that begin with:

I am, I Can, and I Will.  

I recommend doing this in the morning and just before bed. 

These may seem like very simple statements but their impact on your confidence will be complex. Your life and all the amazing opportunities that are waiting, will bloom and you will wake up excited to create your day.

While you are writing your Positive Power Statements, you are discovering all the great things about you.  And that will change your view of you and your life.  Start today and notice the shift.

Here are mine from this morning:

I Am Grateful for the Abundance in my Life

I Can Achieve my Goals  

I Will Live in Italy

Jump into the Facebook Group and share your Positive Power Statements.

Choose to make it a Great Day!

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Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's a Gossip Thing

Truth:  She is such a bitch!  Look at her outfit can you imagine wearing that!?  My boss is a nasty cheating jerk!  Did you see the way she treated so and so?  She's pregnant again!  How can they afford another child?!

It's all gossip, rumour, innuendo, judgement and it's TOXIC!  

Gossiping is toxic to your personal wellbeing and mood.  Gossip causes stress, guilt, uncertainty, anxiety and distrust.  these are not good feelings to have for your day!  

Participating in gossip has negative consequences for your emotional, mental and physical health.  Bet you thought it was harmless!

Dare:  Consciously decide that you will not participate in any form of gossip.  You won't start the gossip.  You won't listen to gossip.  You won't engage with gossip.  You will remove yourself from gossipy situations.  

Remember:  When you're gossiping about someone, someone else is gossiping about you!

You will begin a Healthy Gossip-Free Lifestyle!

7 day Challenge: 

Wake Up and Smile!

I Declare Myself Gossip Free!

Make it a Great |Day!

Keep, Edit, Delete, Add: 4 Steps to Being You & Living Authentically

What is Authentically Me?

The authentic self is the real, genuine you. It is the you that is buried deep and is the very core of your being. The authentic self is a culmination of all things that are you – knowledge, talents, skills, attitude, and perspective. 

It isn’t defined by your placement in a family unit or career.
Finding the truth about who you really are and what is important to you takes honesty, awareness, and some time.

How Can I Be Authentically Me?

Keep:  These are the things in your life you will prioritize over everything else.  You can and probably will increase them over time.  

Questions to find what to keep:

• What is working in your life?
• What brings you joy?  Lights you up?
• What and who lets you be your true self?
• What is moving you forward towards the life you crave and envision?

Edit:  Some things, people and relationships we love and care about but they just need some tweaking or editing to make them shine.

Questions to find what to edit:

• Do you want to lessen your time spent on them?
• Do you feel stress when you think about spending time with a particular person?  Or in a certain situation?
• Do you crave a new way forward?  In your job? In your relationship?  In your life?
• What can you edit to bring your roles and commitments into alignment with your values and priorities?

Delete:  The biggest part of living authentically is not being passive about how your life unfolds!  Deleting is the most difficult step but it is also the one that will have the greatest impact on your life moving forward.

Questions to find what to delete:

• What do you need to let go of?  Make use of the Worksheet to really get to the heart of what needs to go.
• What is not "you"?
• What is standing in your way?

Add:  The benefit of having edited or deleted things from your life that were not in alignment with your authentic self and your personal life's vision, is that you have freed up time, energy and resources for things and people that matter to you.

Questions to find what to add:

• What has been missing from your life?
• What goals can you add to bring you closer to your authentic self?
• How can you bring more of the real you into your day-to-day life?
• How can you add joy and laughter to your everyday life?

Being authentic and living your passionate, amazing life, is about choosing.  You can choose to keep, edit or delete and then you can add all the great stuff that has been missing.  Once you clean up the mess and add the good stuff, you are living authentically.  

Living a truly Authentic Life means that you can:

Love yourself  * Forgive yourself  *  Accept yourself  *  Be Good to Yourself

Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's an Intention Thing

Truth:  Waking up in the morning we have the opportunity to set our intention for the day.  Actually, it's a gift we are given.  You open your eyes, stretch and start your day. But here's the sad truth; the majority of people wake up and immediately have cranky negative thoughts.  I hate my job, work sucks, I'm broke, I hope that nasty woman doesn't phone today, I'm feeling fat, blah, blah, blah.  

When you wake up and immediately start your day thinking about all the perceived bad things in your life, you successfully set your intention for your day to negative and ugly. Guaranteed you will have an awful day!

Dare:  Wake up and set your intention to positive!  Wake up and smile - you're still here and that's a good start!  Smile and think about all the goods things that will happen today:  I'm meeting my friend for lunch, my boss is out of town for the day - woot woot, I'm going to make a plan to fix my finances, I feel good, I have good health, I will enjoy some great music on the way to work.  Set your intention dial to positive.  

7 day Challenge: 

Wake Up and Smile!

Set your intention dial to positive

Create 3 positive scenarios for the day and 

focus on those when your mood starts to turn negative

Make it a Great |Day!

GRACE-ful Steps: Time to Release & Let it Go

Last week I wrote about the Gratitude - the first GRACE-ful step to reclaiming your big, bold life.  Now that you have added gratitude to your daily life, you're ready to move on to GRACE-ful Step 2 - Release - Let it Go!

I bet you're holding on to all kinds of negative junk.  The junk you're holding on to is cluttering your mind and your path forward.  Yeah, that's the truth!

The things you hold on to, bear grudges or perhaps feel angry and hurt about cloud your mind and prevent you from being the best you can be.

They are baggage.  Heavy, overloaded baggage.  The kind you would pay extra for when you travel.  And the kind you are paying a hefty price for right now!

You’re so much more than 

your old baggage.

It’s time to let it go.

You want to free yourself from your baggage and get on with living.  I know this from personal experience.

I was holding on to junk that had been handed to me during a violent relationship.

I had bags containing anger - at him, at me, at people who should have rescued me.

I had bags containing guilt - my children saw some of the bad stuff, my family kinda warned me and I didn't listen and these bags led to new bags filled with:  AnGer!

And so the spiral went and I truly believed this would be my state of mind for the rest of my life.  I was a victim and victims are angry and depressed and guilty. Aren't they?

The things you hold onto, bear grudges or perhaps feel angry and hurt about cloud your mind and prevent you from being the best you can be.

You don't need to know HOW to let go, 

you just need to be WILLING.

Action Steps & Worksheet:

Releasing & Letting Go begins with 2 questions:

What Do I Need to Let Go Of?

How Do I Benefit From Holding On?

Create a list of what you need to let go of and right beside each one, write down the reason you're holding on to that emotion, feeling, person, situation.

Be brutally honest with your Reason!  Releasing and Letting Go will only happen when you're honest about your motivation for holding on.

The reason will be your aha moment!  It will provide you with insight into your "why" and that's the moment you will begin to Let it Go!

Deep Breath  -  Let it Go  -  Smile  -  Repeat 

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My Personal Journey from Victim to Survivor to Thriver

It happened in a split second and I almost let it negatively change my life forever.  But I didn't and I'm so grateful.

I loved him and I trusted him and then he hit me and choked me and sexually assaulted me and cheated on me.  I was devastated. My world was crashing down around me and I felt betrayed, powerless, worthless and humiliated.

I found a small bit of the feisty me and charged him.  In Ontario, the police file the charges and he was arrested and put in jail.  And then the insult upon injury happened - his girlfriend bailed him out of jail!

So it ended. I was unceremoniously thrust into the label of "victim".  At the time it satisfied many of my needs. I could cry and whine.  I could drink excessively.  I could feel sorry for myself.  I could be self-destructive.  I could treat men like garbage.  I could be a righteous bitch. I could believe that it was okay because I WAS A VICTIM!

I had other negative labels that had been attached by "that guy" - loser, stupid, useless, ugly, fat, etc.  You catch my drift.

There I was stuck with labels and limiting beliefs that were certainly not the kind to live a vibrant and happy life.

I longed for the me that was free and confident and could do anything she set her mind too.  I wanted to find her again and love her and be her.  I wanted to fulfill my dreams.

Underneath all the labels I had acquired was "me" and I wanted her back.  I wanted to write new chapters for my life.  Chapters that were filled with happiness, brightness, joy, passion and life.

I wanted to reclaim my light spirit and I did.

I met a friend who dedicated her life to helping others and was very successful.  She told me that words have power and that by changing my words, I would begin to change my life and find the me I had lost.  

That day I changed my biggest negative label Victim to Survivor. Immediately, it had a positive impact on my behaviour and it boosted my self-confidence and my will to achieve my goals and dreams.

I was coming back.  I was scared to let go but I knew that I couldn't embrace new beginnings while I was hanging onto the past.

It was a journey and sometimes I felt I would never be able to live a life light of heart.  But I persevered.   I accepted the challenge and stepped into my life beyond the hurt.

I have successfully achieved many of my goals - learning to drive, graduating with honours from the University of Toronto, travelling and experiencing vibrant countries and falling in love again.

Me and my beautiful daughter on my wedding day!

It is possible to get your life back after a traumatic setback.  Not only can you get it back, it will be bigger and bolder than it was before.

I can confidently declare myself a "Thriver" who's loving life every minute of every day.

I let go of the past and

embraced my bright future.

About Susan Ball:  Susan inspires her clients to live the life of their dreams with passion, joy, and love. Susan is an experienced international Life Coach helping people Live a Baggage-Free Life.

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Want Your Life to Change? You Have to get Naked First

It's impossible to change your clothes without getting naked.  You have to strip down to your bareness in order to rebuild your outfit. Once you strip down, you can add the layers of clothing that "feel right for you".

The same applies to your life!

You may have no idea what is making you feel depressed, angry, sad, confused, hopeless.

That's the time to start stripping!  Layer by layer - stripping off to find all the shit you're really holding on to.  What baggage you're dragging around with you.  What it's time to let go of!

When you want to achieve lasting change, you have to strip away your life-layers!  Peeling each one away to get them off once and for all.

Look in the Mirror

Your naked-life begins with your Personal Discovery Session where you ask yourself:

• What is not working in my life right now?

Write an honest, open, naked assessment of what is not working in your life.  Relationships, career, friends, children, finances, family, health, fun, leisure, personal growth and learning.  

Start Stripping

Here's where the ripping off the layers begins.  Ask yourself "Why" it's not working for you.

Why?  Is it because you're still angry or upset about something that happened at some point in the past?  Is it because you feel you were hurt or disrespected in some way?  Is it because you feel you are unworthy of something better?  Do you feel you are justified in your why?

Answering your "why" requires honesty and sometimes painful introspection.  You will be asking yourself how did I get here and what were the events in my life that had a significant impact.

Our lives are built from experiences.  Some are happy, some are sad and some are traumatic.  Each adds a life-layer and as time goes by, we start to feel weighed down by our baggage, what we're carrying around with us every minute of every day.  

The Naked Truth

Now it's time to truly look at your "why" to discover the naked truth.  To get to it, ask yourself:

1. What am I holding on to this for?  
2. What purpose does it serve?

The answer will show you how you are robbing yourself of happiness now by being overloaded with baggage from your past.

Now that you have a snapshot of what you're holding on to and why, you can see clearly where you are now and where you would like to be.

Take Naked Action

Commit to taking action now while you're naked and ready to change into a brand new and improved you.

Write 3 quick goals or actions you will take that will have a positive and lasting impact on your life.  Choose the areas in you life where you discovered you have the most baggage. 

Give your goals a timeframe - I will complete action 1 by ____date___.

Keep going, keep letting go and opening your life up to new adventures and opportunities.  

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About Susan Ball:  Susan inspires her clients to live the life of their dreams with passion, joy, and love. Susan is an experienced international Life Coach helping people Live a Baggage-Free Life.

Learn more about Susan by visiting her Online, on Facebook

Susan inspires her clients to live the life of their dreams with passion, joy, and love. Susan is an experienced international Life Coach helping people discover and live a Baggage-Free life through NLP, Mindfulness, and G.R.A.C.E. Learn more about Susan by visiting her Online, on Facebook

Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's a Play Thing

Truth:  Life is meant to be enjoyed.  Happiness is a beautiful, creative state of mind.  Happiness is strongly linked to PLAY! Just look at children playing, they're laughing, smiling and joyful.

Dare:  Add PLAY to your day.  Dance. Skip. Be Spontaneous. Swing. Get a group of friends together for a game of good old-fashioned tag or touch football.  There are many ways to add Play to your day.  Yesterday, I splashed through all the wonderful puddles.  Charley & I had a blast.

How will you add PLAY to your Day?

Post in the comments how you added play to your day.

Join Me for a 4-Week Virtual Program

and Spring Clean Your Life

Click Here for all the Juicy Details

About Susan Ball:  Susan inspires her clients to live the life of their dreams with passion, joy, and love. Susan is an experienced international Life Coach helping people Live a Baggage-Free Life.

Learn more about Susan by visiting her Online, on Facebook