FREE Webinar: 5 Steps to Transform from Victim to Victor

Life is too Short to Let Victim Define You

Your story is so much more than what "happened" to you.  

I got all caught up in my victim story.  It was comfortable there.  I could talk about it.  I could let it comfort me.  I could let it determine how I acted. My life made sense.

I hung onto my story because I was afraid to let it go.  Letting it go felt like I would fall into a dark abyss filled with nothing and no-one. I was terrified of the emptiness that I thought would be the result of letting my story go.

When I did decide to let that story go and let go of the past hurts, I walked into my greatest story. One that keeps growing and improving.   I realized that my story had taught me so much about what I wanted in my life.  What was acceptable and who I would embrace on my new journey. Consciously deciding to let my past go, was the most terrifying and rewarding experience rolled together! I am so happy I stepped out of my past, healed and stepped into my brilliant present. I want to share my 5-Steps to Transform from Victim to Victor I'm hosting a Free Webinar that will give you the tools to take the leap. In this FREE Webinar, you will discover how to... Let Go of Your Fear Boldly Change Your Story Create Big Authentic Changes Embrace your Victor Life is too Short to Let Victim Define You Thursday, 29 October 2015, at 08:00 pm EST; 09:00 AST Click Here to Register See you on Thursday, Susan xo PS: Please share with your friends and colleagues. Click the social share buttons and let others know about this life-changing Free Webinar!

5-Signs You Are Holding on to the Past for Dear Life

You did it.  You took the first step and left him behind and I want to congratulate you for the courageous step you took when you left your toxic, emotionally abusive partner.

It was a bad relationship and you were consistently criticized, bullied, ridiculed, and abandoned. You decided that it was time to say goodbye to the person and walk out the door.  You decided you want and deserve a better life. 

But there's a problem that's standing in your way of a your new, life and happiness:  You are holding on to your Past for Dear Life.

5-Signs that You are Guilty of Holding On:

1. You won't stop talking about it.  The incident I mean.  You want to tell everyone who will listen and even those who don't want to but are stuck! 
2. You fully embrace your victim label.  You hold onto your story and keep telling it so you can rationalize your "victimness" and hang on to it for dear life.
3. You haven't moved forward.  Not one little step.  You can only be a validated victim if you stay right where you are.
4. You haven't set any new goals.  No new action steps to change your life.  You haven't set a dream or rekindled a passion.  Nothing.  Just stuck.
5. You are losing friends, family, colleagues and acquaintances.  People are jumping ship.

When you leave a toxic, painful relationship, you leave with scars on your heart but you also leave with your Free Will to Create a Life You Love.  But in order to embrace your new happiness and heal your scars, you have to leave your story in the past. You have to let go of your victim; she's holding you back.

The most common reason for hanging on for dear life is familiarity.  It is a familiar place to be.  You are a victim and there is safety in that label.  If you hang on to your story and your hurt then no one else can get in and do it again. 

It's scary to let go of something familiar and let yourself fall freely into your new chapter.  But it is the best and only thing to do when you want to embrace and love yourself unconditionally.

While you're holding on to your "victim", you are closing off a space for your victor to flourish. Victors love themselves unconditionally.  They recognize that they have taken big, bold, courageous steps to freedom and they celebrate their tenacity.  Victors thrive and create a life that has meaning to them. They wake up in the morning ready for their next adventure.  They are fully and completely alive.

Victors know what they want, what is acceptable and how they will achieve their goals.

Your Victor Blossoms When You Release Your Victim

I cannot express to you the joy and the fun you will have in your life when you decide to let your victim go! There is no future in holding on!

I know it's scary but you are worth the plunge.  Once you let the victim go, you will begin to see all the possibilities that are available to you.  And your hands and heart will be open to grabbing on to them. 

You're amazing and you're on your way to a fantastic life built by you, for you.

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Are You Ready to Thrive: Live Life Fearlessly?

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7-Ways Your Life Will Blossom When You Release "Why"

I remember when I left my tormentor, I was emotionally tortured by "WHY".  I screamed why at the top of my lungs.  It started all my questions: Why did he do it?  Why wasn't I good enough? Why did this happen to me? 

I searched and searched for answers but the "why" was never ending and one why led to the next why. The answers were simply not satisfying and I was stuck.  Not moving forward.  Living with "him" even though I had physically left.  

When you're firmly hugging your why, it's impossible to embrace your new "how" and "when". Moving forward, igniting your confidence and sparking your true Rebel Thriver only happen when you release why.

How and when are personal power questions that keep you moving toward your goal of a confident, independent, and happy life.  

Here's what happens when you Embrace "How" & "When"

YOU WILL wake up every day energized, joyful, confident, and excited about the possibilities
YOU WILL put yourself first, say No without guilt, and stand up for your values
YOU WILL attract amazing, supportive and loving people into your life
YOU WILL be confident and comfortable, complete yourself, and will easily recognize and connect with those who share your values and enthusiasm
YOU WILL spark your sense of adventure, wonder & joy
YOU WILL recognize increased intimacy and mutually rewarding relationships
YOU WILL embrace your  Big. Bold. Blissful. Life!

To your amazing journey, Susan xo

PS: Feel free to read Why is a Dirty Word to learn how detrimental why is to your healing journey.

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5-Ways to Move from Hurt to Happy

So, you have split from your tormentor and you feel like your heart has been ripped out of your chest. It hurts - physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  Everything Hurts!  You feel torn apart, used, and valueless.

It's over and you're happy about that but the pain that you're experiencing seems unmanageable. Right now you're wondering if the empty feeling will last forever.  If you will ever heal and feel happiness again.

You Absolutely Will

It's a process that begins immediately when you are free from your tormentor.  It begins with you.

The only way you can accept new joy and happiness into your life is to make space for it. If your heart is filled full-up with pain and hurt, how can you be open to anything new?

People who hold on to these past hurts often relive the pain over and over in their minds. Sometimes a person can even get “stuck” in this pain, in this hurt, in this blame. In the role of the Victim.

I don't want you to get stuck in the role of the Victim.  It's so unhealthy and you only have one life, this one right now.  Do you really want to spend a lot of precious time living in the past?  Holding on to a situation or pain that happened long ago?  Or would you prefer to embrace the present and look forward to your future?

Let's Get Started:

Step One:  Be RAW and Let it Out!

Grieve - Let it Out - Cry - Scream - Punch a Pillow - Weep - Be Angry - Tell a Friend - Write in Your Journal - Write a Letter to Your Tormentor that you will never send - Stomp Your Feet

Have a good tantrum.  Now, take a deep breath and notice how much better you feel now that you have let it out.

Step Two: Let it Go!

Make a conscious decision to Let it Go! Hurts won't go away on their own.  You have to release them.  When you don’t make the conscious choice up-front, you end up self-sabotaging any effort to move on from this past hurt.

Step Three: Break Up With Your "Victim"

Living as a "Victim" simply means you have not taken personal responsibility for your Happiness. You are blaming others for situations and outcomes and bad feelings.  You need to take responsibility for your own happiness, and not put such power into the hands of another person. Why would you let the person who hurt you in the past have such power, right here, right now?

Step Four: Focus on Now

Now it’s time to let go. Let go of the past, and stop reliving it. Stop telling yourself that story where the protagonist — you — is forever the victim of this other person’s horrible actions. You can’t undo the past, all you can do is to make today the best day of your life.

Step Five: Forgive Them

We may not have to forget another person’s bad behaviours, but virtually everybody deserves our forgiveness. Sometimes we get stuck in our pain and our stubbornness, we can’t even imagine forgiveness. But forgiveness isn’t saying, “I agree with what you did.” Instead, it’s saying, “I don’t agree with what you did, but I forgive you anyway.”

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I know from personal experience that it's incredibly difficult to want to let go of your pain.  But when you decide that you want to and will let it go, you have taken the biggest, boldest step to your Personal Freedom and Wellness.

Join me on Thursday , September 10th where we'll dive deeply into the 5-Steps during my Hurt to Happy Success Call.

I'm going to talk in greater detail about the 5-Steps so you can enjoy the amazing benefits of breaking up with your victim mentality and step into your Big Bold Blissful life.

Title: Hurt to Happy with Susan Ball

Time: Thursday, September 10th at 8:00 pm EST (9 pm ADT)

Listening method: Phone + Web Simulcast

To attend, visit: http://iTeleseminar.com/74234505

Phone Number: (425) 440-5100

Local Numbers:http://InstantTeleseminar.com/Local/

Pin Code: 802820#

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Hurt To Happy Success Call - September 10

My mission is to encourage and support women who do not want to be defined as a victim after they have left a toxic relationship.

You are incredible and strong and I want you transcend the current support model for survivors of toxic relationships and reclaim your life before the abuse.

I'm hosting a Hurt to Happy Success call on September 10 and I'd love to have you join me. I'm going to talk the amazing benefits of breaking up with your victim mentality so you can step into your Big Bold Blissful life.

Title: Hurt to Happy with Susan Ball

Time: Thursday, September 10th at 8:00 pm EST (9 pm ADT)

Listening method: Phone + Web Simulcast

To attend, visit: http://iTeleseminar.com/74234505

Phone Number: (425) 440-5100

Local Numbers:http://InstantTeleseminar.com/Local/

Pin Code: 802820#

Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's a "Someday" Thing

Truth: People who are waiting for someday, will never reach their goals or experience their dreams.  Someday is an excuse not to take action!

When you are sitting back and saying "Someday I will leave my toxic relationship" or "Someday I will travel" or "Someday I will change jobs", you are effectively giving yourself permission to do nothing about your current situation because Someday doesn't exist!  It will never come so you remain stuck in your current and ongoing situation.

When you use "Someday", you're expressing your fear of change and the future.

Dare: Dump Someday from your vocabulary.  It doesn't belong in your life and will only hold you back from living a Big. Bold. Blissful. Life!

Write down one-big bold dream or goal that you want to make a reality. Give it a fabulous, sexy Name.  Now, Make a Date. Choose a specific Day to accomplish your dreamy goal.

Your Dream Goal Has a Name + You Can Look Forward to Your Date Together.

You are Closer to Success than You Ever Were.

7 day Challenge: 

Wake Up and Smile!

Put pen to paper & write down your big, juicy, 
dreamy goal.  

Give it a Fabulous, Sexy Name

Make a date with your dream goal.

Create a bunch of tiny small steps you will take to 
achieve your dreamy goal.

Make a date with each tiny step!

Celebrate every successful step you take along your path.

Feel Yourself Moving Toward Your Big Dream!

Make it a Great |Day!

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Are You Ready to Thrive: Live Life Fearlessly?

Download the 5-Steps to Transform from Victim to Victor Workbook:  

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5-Steps to Transform from Victim to Victor

You made a courageous, big, bold decision to leave a toxic relationship and I want to congratulate you for your tenaciousness!

It takes a lot of determination and sometimes a leap of faith to finally say: "That's it, I've had enough. I'm outta here!"

Because of your fabulous decision to ditch your tormentor, you are no longer experiencing that person's daily verbal and emotional assaults. You have stepped into your Freedom and now you have two paths to choose from:

1)  The Path of the Victim:

Wallowing in self-pity, victim, sufferer, depressed, unhappy, blaming, complaining, hopeless

Falling down as victim, wallowing in self-pity,or being a sufferer reverses your big, bold, step.  Once you accept a victim-mentality you spend your precious time looking for someone to blame or complaining in general.

It is a no-win model! There is no value in continuing to focus on the whys, maybes, and what ifs. It is not a healing model.  It’s a model that keeps your tied to your toxic relationship and living in the past.

2) The Path of the Victor:

Survivor, Thriver, Victor, Courageous, Confident, Inspired, Happy, Grateful, Hopeful

Choose the Path of the Victor!

Stepping into life as a Victor and the Creator of Your Own Destiny is empowering, enriching, and lifesaving.  When you're the Victor, you see each step you take in your healing journey as progress. You don't look back or want to find explanations for the past.  You want to experience your life, your way, in the present moment while creating your amazing future.

Life is short.  Sometimes it can be cut even shorter.  When you emerge as a Victor ready to take on the challenge of claiming responsibility for your life and your actions, you don't waste precious time rehashing the past looking for answers because you're way too busy having fun, setting goals, and seeing your future as an adventure of your making.

The victor is not afraid to fail, or feel uncomfortable by the effort required to work hard and succeed.

5-Steps to Transform From Victim to Victor

Step One - Gratitude, Gratitude and More Gratitude

There is always something to be grateful for.  The smallest of things bring me the greatest gratitude. When you are “stuck” or feeling down, gratitude will provide the way out.  Gratitude puts situations into perspective. When we can see the good as well as the bad, it becomes more difficult to complain and stay stuck.  Gratitude focuses our attention on what we have.

Step Two - Let it Go!

What can I release? Let go of?  I bet you're holding on to all kinds of negative junk.  The junk you're holding on to is cluttering your mind and your path forward.  Yeah, that's the truth! The things you hold on to, bear grudges or perhaps feel angry and hurt about cloud your mind and prevent you from being the best you can be.

Step Three - Building Your Relationship with Authentic You

The authentic self is the real, genuine you. It is the you that is buried deep and is the very core of your being. The authentic self is a culmination of all things that are you – knowledge, talents, skills, attitude, and perspective. It isn’t defined by your placement in a family unit or career. 

Finding the truth about who you really are and what is important to you takes honesty, awareness, and some time. 

Step Four - Get in Front of Your Challenges

It is so easy to get stopped dead in your tracks when you start to think about all the challenges in your path.  In fact, when you overthink your “to do” list, you could give up on your journey and I don’t want you to do that!

Challenges are everywhere in your life.  It’s not the challenge that will keep you stuck, it’s how you handle it.  And the best way to handle challenges is to get out in front of them.

Step Five - Embrace Your Possibilities

One of the most powerful tools anyone can use on a daily basis is Positive Affirmations. Every time you write or say your affirmation, you are reinforcing your new positive belief and overwriting your old negative one.

You're Ready to Thrive: Live Life Fearlessly

Download the 5-Steps to Transform from Victim to Victor Workbook:  

Get It Now!

I help women discover the big, bold, blissful lives they deserve! Ready to reclaim your future and start thriving? Book your free Discovery Session now!