Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's a Should Thing

Truth:  Should is one of the dirtiest words in the English language.  It's only outcome is making you feel horrible about yourself, your abilities, your intentions, what you chose to wear today!  Oh, and shouldn't is equally as bad.  Must and mustn't or the older version - ought and oughtn't are the same. So don't even think about changing should for a must or ought!

Shoulding all over yourself creates a negative mindset.  Period. When you think you should do something or other, your immediate emotions are guilt and anxiety because you're not doing what you think you "should" be doing.

Dare:  Listen to your shoulds and shouldn'ts.  Write them down and change should for want or will or can.  For example, if you are shoulding about losing a few pounds, or quitting smoking, or having lunch with someone you really don't like, then change your words to:

I want to or will lose 5 pounds by the end of the month

I will cut down from 20 cigs a day to 5 by the end of the month

I will call her and we'll meet for a nice breakfast

7 day Challenge: 

Commit to listening for your shoulds and shouldn'ts!  

When you hear yourself shoulding, immediately change to a positive action word - want, will, or can!  

Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's a Compliment Thing

Truth: Wishing and waiting for others to give you a compliment won't make it happen.  Yes, it would be fabulous if your great work or gourmet cooking or volunteer time were acknowledged with a compliment.  But the sad truth is most of our goodness is not recognized even with the simplest of gestures: a compliment.  Lack of compliments damages our self-worth and starts a negative pattern of questioning,  We begin to wonder whether or not we are good enough.

Dare:  Give yourself compliments!   When you finish a task including washing the kitchen floor, take a second to tell yourself "Great Job!".  After you get dressed, look in the mirror and say "I'm rocking this outfit!".  When you donate your stuff to charity or go and walk a shelter dog, pat yourself on the back for your good deed.

7 day Challenge: 

Commit to a Daily Compliment just for You!  

Commit to Giving Away a Compliment Every Day!  

Accept all Compliments with a Gracious Thank You!

My Compliment To You:

You are simply amazing and that's the truth!

Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's a Complaining Thing

Time for Tuesday Truth or Dare!

Truth:  Yesterday I was out and about running some errands.  The errands took me to the bank, grocery store, clothing store and a local wellness centre.  What stood out to me was the amount of complaining I heard!  

People were complaining about everything - the line-up, the weather, their neighbour, the airline, their job, traffic, the driver that cut them off, and so on.  

I was amazed at how much valuable time people were spending on complaining, criticizing and gossiping.  Definite negative moods and attitudes.

Dare:  Change Your Perspective:  When a potentially negative situation comes up (standing in a long line at the grocery store), change your perspective and turn it into a positive moment.  I can escape and read the gossip magazines or I now have the chance to take a deep breath and just be. Stuck in traffic - listen to some great music and enjoy.

Airline - you are going or have been on a trip - speaks for itself!

10 day Challenge: Vow to not complain, criticize, or gossip for 10 days. If you slip, start again, and keep going. Vow to not waste your precious energy on negative thoughts and actions.

Notice your day-to-day world from a point of gratitude and be amazed at all the goodness you take for granted

About Susan Ball:  Susan inspires her clients to live the life of their dreams with passion, joy, and love. Susan is an experienced international Life Coach helping people Live a Baggage-Free Life.

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Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's a Nature Thing

Time for Tuesday Truth or Dare!

Truth:  Nature is all around us.  We are surrounded by natural landscapes, parks, trees and water.  Even when the weather is less than perfect, nature is still there.  We spend most of our time inside and away from nature.  Even when we step outside, we're looking at our cell phones and not our natural environment. If we're inside or looking at our phones, we won't benefit from the healing power of our natural world.  

Dare:  Go outside.  Leave all your electronic gadgets in the office, at home or in the car.  Take a walk to a park and sit on a bench.  Look around and really see and notice.  Listen and breath slowly.  Smile at passersby.  Feel the sun on your face or the cool breeze.  Focus on the moment ONLY!  Mark time in calendar every day that is reserved for quiet time in a natural setting.  Do it and you will reduce stress and increase your wellbeing exponentially.  It's well worth the investment.

About Susan Ball:  Susan inspires her clients to live the life of their dreams with passion, joy, and love. Susan is an experienced international Life Coach helping people Live a Baggage-Free Life.

Learn more about Susan by visiting her Online, on Facebook