3 Bold Steps to Kick-Start Healing After a Toxic Relationship

When I first left my abuser, I was obsessed and I mean obsessed, with finding the reason why he did what he did.  I had rationalized that if I discovered what was wrong with him, I could move on and get started on living my life again.

I spent a great deal of my life analyzing his behaviour and developing varied and compelling diagnoses.  With every diagnosis, I had lists of supporting evidence.  

I had all sorts of them:  Narcissist, Middle Child Syndrome, Toxic Parents, Anger Management, Alcohol Abuse, and so on 

But every diagnosis, only offered fleeting happiness.  I would celebrate what I thought was the perfect reason only to realize that it did not heal my hurt or my heart or my life.  I continued to feel hurt and lonely and lost.

It wasn't until I realized that not one of the "labels" that I was giving him was going to change a damn thing.  It really didn't matter if he was a narcissist or had nasty parents.  The bottom line: He was a fu*king class A dick. Period.

He hurt me because he could and because he wanted to.  

No fancy labels needed!

Once I stopped analyzing him, I was able to focus on me, my life, and my healing.  That moment was the beginning of my Healing Journey.  It was the moment I stepped into being a Victor!

I focused on these 3 Bold Steps:

Step One: Acceptance

This is a big, healing step.  It's time to own that it happened.  It just happened.  It was awful and painful and hurtful but it represents something that happened in your life that will ultimately shape you and create a better version of you.

Hot Tip: Give it a Name.  I call my period of abuse "The Incident".  When I speak with people, I can simply state when The Incident happened or after The Incident.  A generic name immediately diminishes any power your past has over your present and future.

Step Two: Looking Inward

Now you have time to take a close look at what you want and need in your life.  Take the time to really dive deep into your feelings and values:  What makes you smile.  What makes you feel happy. Where do you see yourself in one-year.  Two-years.  What do need in a partner.  What are your values - honesty, freedom, spirituality, humour, intelligence and so on.

Hot Tip: Dive Deep & Take Your Time.  What you value in life and what is acceptable and not acceptable is so very important to your future peace and happiness.  Take all the time you need to dive deep into your needs and wants.  Review.  Revise.  Release the ones that don't feel good.  

Step Three: Putting Me First

You are the most valuable player in your life.  Your well being, needs, wants, desires and passions come first.  Push back - but what about so-and-so, or my kids, or my job?  Yes, they are important but if you do not put yourself first, your mental, physical, and emotional health will quickly deteriorate and you will be of little value to anyone including yourself!

Hot Tip:  Do One Thing Every Day That is Just for You.  One thing is all that is needed.  It can be for five minutes, one-hour, or an entire evening.  That's your choice each day.  Have a quiet tea or coffee without interruption.  Read a chapter.  Chat on the phone with a happy friend.  Be creative.  Take a walk.  Go skating.  

One Simple Pleasure per Day will Improve Your Mood, Your Health, and Your Relationships!

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GRACE-ful Steps: Time to Release & Let it Go

Last week I wrote about the Gratitude - the first GRACE-ful step to reclaiming your big, bold life.  Now that you have added gratitude to your daily life, you're ready to move on to GRACE-ful Step 2 - Release - Let it Go!

I bet you're holding on to all kinds of negative junk.  The junk you're holding on to is cluttering your mind and your path forward.  Yeah, that's the truth!

The things you hold on to, bear grudges or perhaps feel angry and hurt about cloud your mind and prevent you from being the best you can be.

They are baggage.  Heavy, overloaded baggage.  The kind you would pay extra for when you travel.  And the kind you are paying a hefty price for right now!

You’re so much more than 

your old baggage.

It’s time to let it go.

You want to free yourself from your baggage and get on with living.  I know this from personal experience.

I was holding on to junk that had been handed to me during a violent relationship.

I had bags containing anger - at him, at me, at people who should have rescued me.

I had bags containing guilt - my children saw some of the bad stuff, my family kinda warned me and I didn't listen and these bags led to new bags filled with:  AnGer!

And so the spiral went and I truly believed this would be my state of mind for the rest of my life.  I was a victim and victims are angry and depressed and guilty. Aren't they?

The things you hold onto, bear grudges or perhaps feel angry and hurt about cloud your mind and prevent you from being the best you can be.

You don't need to know HOW to let go, 

you just need to be WILLING.

Action Steps & Worksheet:

Releasing & Letting Go begins with 2 questions:

What Do I Need to Let Go Of?

How Do I Benefit From Holding On?

Create a list of what you need to let go of and right beside each one, write down the reason you're holding on to that emotion, feeling, person, situation.

Be brutally honest with your Reason!  Releasing and Letting Go will only happen when you're honest about your motivation for holding on.

The reason will be your aha moment!  It will provide you with insight into your "why" and that's the moment you will begin to Let it Go!

Deep Breath  -  Let it Go  -  Smile  -  Repeat 

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So, What Are You Going to Do About It?

I have clients who will say to me I want to be like you to which I respond You Can with a little work and authenticity!  There is no magic pill, potion or spell that I can prescribe that will make you get up in the morning with a smile on your face looking forward to the day as an adventure in the making.  The prescription writer is YOU!

Not too long ago I found myself dreading the mornings.  I would wake up thinking yuck, another friggin' day, when will this end, what is the purpose of getting up!  I was dreary to say the least with absolutely no plans for the future and nothing to look forward to.  I was on the cusp of filling my prescription for anti-depressants. I was low and the few friends I had probably hated to hear from me.

I had no money.  I had a dead-end job in a big shiny corporate office.  I squeezed myself into a subway car at a god-awful hour of the morning to be surrounded by miserable looking lemmings.  I had a relationship that had run its course.  I had decided that my present and future would be lonely, broke, and defeated.

Sound Familiar?!?  I'm sure there are folks reading this right now who can relate to how I was feeling about life and you're wondering how did I turn it around.

It started with a good and true friend.  They are the friends who ask you the hard questions.  These are the friends you want.  Tip:  Get rid of the nodders! Nodders are your "pretend" friends - the ones who nod and agree with everything you say.  

We were having a coffee and I was doing my usual life is so rotten, I hate my life, blah, blah, blah.  She kept asking me one question:

So, What Are You Going to Do About It?

What a stupid, irritating question!  I was livid.  I wanted her to find the solution for me, NOW!  For some odd reason, my friend wouldn't cooperate and kept asking me that question.  I went home and decided I would not be friends with her anymore which of course, added to my Down on Life Story.  

A strange thing was happening though.....I couldn't get that question out of my head!  When I would think about my finances and wanted to wallow in self-pity, this little voice would ask "Well, Susan, what are you going to do about it?"  The question followed me everyday and everywhere. I wanted to answer the question just so it would go away!

Because of my encounter with a true friend, I learned two very important steps to get me on my way to writing a new chapter.  To begin writing yours, complete these steps:

1. Honestly think about your friends and family and determine who are the "nodders".  Nodders will not help you in your journey.  Drop them from your friends list and replace them with true friends who will ask you to be accountable to you.
2. When you find yourself feeling down because you're thinking about your debts, or how you will never be able to travel to Australia, or how you will be stuck in your dead-end job forever,

STOP, take a deep breath and ask

"So, ____________, what are you going to do about it?

Remove the nodders and keep asking "what am I going to do about this" and you're on your way to writing a new chapter in your life. Oh, and feeling so much better about all the opporuntities that are waiting for you!

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My Personal Journey from Victim to Survivor to Thriver

It happened in a split second and I almost let it negatively change my life forever.  But I didn't and I'm so grateful.

I loved him and I trusted him and then he hit me and choked me and sexually assaulted me and cheated on me.  I was devastated. My world was crashing down around me and I felt betrayed, powerless, worthless and humiliated.

I found a small bit of the feisty me and charged him.  In Ontario, the police file the charges and he was arrested and put in jail.  And then the insult upon injury happened - his girlfriend bailed him out of jail!

So it ended. I was unceremoniously thrust into the label of "victim".  At the time it satisfied many of my needs. I could cry and whine.  I could drink excessively.  I could feel sorry for myself.  I could be self-destructive.  I could treat men like garbage.  I could be a righteous bitch. I could believe that it was okay because I WAS A VICTIM!

I had other negative labels that had been attached by "that guy" - loser, stupid, useless, ugly, fat, etc.  You catch my drift.

There I was stuck with labels and limiting beliefs that were certainly not the kind to live a vibrant and happy life.

I longed for the me that was free and confident and could do anything she set her mind too.  I wanted to find her again and love her and be her.  I wanted to fulfill my dreams.

Underneath all the labels I had acquired was "me" and I wanted her back.  I wanted to write new chapters for my life.  Chapters that were filled with happiness, brightness, joy, passion and life.

I wanted to reclaim my light spirit and I did.

I met a friend who dedicated her life to helping others and was very successful.  She told me that words have power and that by changing my words, I would begin to change my life and find the me I had lost.  

That day I changed my biggest negative label Victim to Survivor. Immediately, it had a positive impact on my behaviour and it boosted my self-confidence and my will to achieve my goals and dreams.

I was coming back.  I was scared to let go but I knew that I couldn't embrace new beginnings while I was hanging onto the past.

It was a journey and sometimes I felt I would never be able to live a life light of heart.  But I persevered.   I accepted the challenge and stepped into my life beyond the hurt.

I have successfully achieved many of my goals - learning to drive, graduating with honours from the University of Toronto, travelling and experiencing vibrant countries and falling in love again.

Me and my beautiful daughter on my wedding day!

It is possible to get your life back after a traumatic setback.  Not only can you get it back, it will be bigger and bolder than it was before.

I can confidently declare myself a "Thriver" who's loving life every minute of every day.

I let go of the past and

embraced my bright future.

About Susan Ball:  Susan inspires her clients to live the life of their dreams with passion, joy, and love. Susan is an experienced international Life Coach helping people Live a Baggage-Free Life.

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Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's a Nature Thing

Time for Tuesday Truth or Dare!

Truth:  Nature is all around us.  We are surrounded by natural landscapes, parks, trees and water.  Even when the weather is less than perfect, nature is still there.  We spend most of our time inside and away from nature.  Even when we step outside, we're looking at our cell phones and not our natural environment. If we're inside or looking at our phones, we won't benefit from the healing power of our natural world.  

Dare:  Go outside.  Leave all your electronic gadgets in the office, at home or in the car.  Take a walk to a park and sit on a bench.  Look around and really see and notice.  Listen and breath slowly.  Smile at passersby.  Feel the sun on your face or the cool breeze.  Focus on the moment ONLY!  Mark time in calendar every day that is reserved for quiet time in a natural setting.  Do it and you will reduce stress and increase your wellbeing exponentially.  It's well worth the investment.

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Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's Giving Thing

Time for Tuesday Truth or Dare!

Truth:  When was the last time you looked around at all your stuff and wondered what your life would be like if you got rid of it.  We tend to put a lot of value on stuff and possessions.  The more we have the more we want.  Sometimes it feels we will never have happiness because we don't have enough stuff or the right stuff. 

Dare:  It's time to let go! Open a cupboard or drawer or closet and find 3 things to giveaway.  No hesitating.  Just pick it and give it away. Pick one day each week that you will spend 15 minutes gathering stuff to give away. After a month, sit down and write a list of the stuff you gave away. You'll discover you can't remember all the stuff.  Why?  Because it wasn't that important in the first place.

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Susan inspires her clients to live the life of their dreams with passion, joy, and love. Susan is an experienced international Life Coach helping people discover and live a Baggage-Free life through NLP, Mindfulness, and G.R.A.C.E. Learn more about Susan by visiting her Online, on Facebook

Want Your Life to Change? You Have to get Naked First

It's impossible to change your clothes without getting naked.  You have to strip down to your bareness in order to rebuild your outfit. Once you strip down, you can add the layers of clothing that "feel right for you".

The same applies to your life!

You may have no idea what is making you feel depressed, angry, sad, confused, hopeless.

That's the time to start stripping!  Layer by layer - stripping off to find all the shit you're really holding on to.  What baggage you're dragging around with you.  What it's time to let go of!

When you want to achieve lasting change, you have to strip away your life-layers!  Peeling each one away to get them off once and for all.

Look in the Mirror

Your naked-life begins with your Personal Discovery Session where you ask yourself:

• What is not working in my life right now?

Write an honest, open, naked assessment of what is not working in your life.  Relationships, career, friends, children, finances, family, health, fun, leisure, personal growth and learning.  

Start Stripping

Here's where the ripping off the layers begins.  Ask yourself "Why" it's not working for you.

Why?  Is it because you're still angry or upset about something that happened at some point in the past?  Is it because you feel you were hurt or disrespected in some way?  Is it because you feel you are unworthy of something better?  Do you feel you are justified in your why?

Answering your "why" requires honesty and sometimes painful introspection.  You will be asking yourself how did I get here and what were the events in my life that had a significant impact.

Our lives are built from experiences.  Some are happy, some are sad and some are traumatic.  Each adds a life-layer and as time goes by, we start to feel weighed down by our baggage, what we're carrying around with us every minute of every day.  

The Naked Truth

Now it's time to truly look at your "why" to discover the naked truth.  To get to it, ask yourself:

1. What am I holding on to this for?  
2. What purpose does it serve?

The answer will show you how you are robbing yourself of happiness now by being overloaded with baggage from your past.

Now that you have a snapshot of what you're holding on to and why, you can see clearly where you are now and where you would like to be.

Take Naked Action

Commit to taking action now while you're naked and ready to change into a brand new and improved you.

Write 3 quick goals or actions you will take that will have a positive and lasting impact on your life.  Choose the areas in you life where you discovered you have the most baggage. 

Give your goals a timeframe - I will complete action 1 by ____date___.

Keep going, keep letting go and opening your life up to new adventures and opportunities.  

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30 Spring Affirmations - Inspiration for Change & Renewal

Spring is a time of renewal and change and a fabulous time to review your current life situation.  Affirmations can be a powerful tool to help you change your mood, state of mind, and manifest the change you desire in your life.

Affirmations want to be repeated daily either in writing or aloud.

Speak the affirmation out loud three times a day or when needed! Or write out the affirmation several times in a notebook.

Every time you write or say your affirmation, you are reinforcing your new positive belief and overwriting your old negative one.

Here are 30 Positive Affirmations to get you started.

I am beautiful, capable, and lovable. I am valuable.

I love myself unconditionally and nurture myself in every way.
 
I trust my inner guidance.  

I am successful and Life is effortless and easy.

The universe supports my process and my success.

Abundance is present for me here and now.

I have abundance in friends, money, creativity and love.

I am open to the love, devotion and respect of another.

The perfect partner is waiting for me right now.

I am attracted only to those relationships that are open, honest, and healthy for me.

I maintain healthy boundaries in all my relationships.

I am surrounding by loving, supportive, and positive people.

My relationships are passionate, exciting, and fun.
 
All my relationships are based on integrity and respect.

I relate easily to people in all kinds of situations.
 
I am comfortable and confident in all my relationships.

I exercise regularly, I have plenty of vitality and energy

I take care of my physical body, am kind to it and feed it well.

I sleep deeply each night, I have tremendous stamina

I am extremely creative, I enjoy coming up with new ideas

I like to meet in harmony with my positive minded friends to mastermind my goals.

I start each day with enthusiasm, eager to act.

I am creative and resourceful and have all the abilities I need to succeed.

I love challenges and learn from every situation in my life.

I live every day with power and passion.

I feel strong and excited, passionate and powerful.

I feel tremendous confidence that I can do anything.

I am timeless being and awareness.

I have no shape, no name.

Before all beginnings, after all endings, I am. I am Love itself.

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Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's a Play Thing

Truth:  Life is meant to be enjoyed.  Happiness is a beautiful, creative state of mind.  Happiness is strongly linked to PLAY! Just look at children playing, they're laughing, smiling and joyful.

Dare:  Add PLAY to your day.  Dance. Skip. Be Spontaneous. Swing. Get a group of friends together for a game of good old-fashioned tag or touch football.  There are many ways to add Play to your day.  Yesterday, I splashed through all the wonderful puddles.  Charley & I had a blast.

How will you add PLAY to your Day?

Post in the comments how you added play to your day.

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April 7 to April 28

This course is for you if:

You're ready to create space for a New Fresh Perspective.

You're ready to let go of the clutter and junk that keeps you stuck

You want to shift your attention from all that is going wrong to all that is going Right!

You want to sweep out extraneous distractions, projects and tasks so you can easily prioritize and focus on your main goals

You’re ready for a Healthier, Balanced Lifestyle

You are ready to take the first steps to Living Baggage-Free

What you'll get: 

Weekly Group Call – we’ll all get together on Tuesdays at 7 pm (EST); 8 pm (AST) for a supportive and information filled phone conference.

My thought-provoking and action-taking worksheets that will get you letting go, setting goals, practicing gratitude and celebrating your life

Access to a supportive Facebook group of inspired Spring Cleaners!

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A refreshed and shiny outlook focused on all the amazing possibilities and joy that were hiding under the dust bunnies!

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Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's a Gratitude Thing

It's time for this Tuesday's Truth or Dare.  

Truth:  We spend a great deal of our precious time focusing on what we don't have, what we haven't accomplished, and what someone else has that we don't have.  See a pattern?  Not exactly the thought pattern that will bring you happiness and contentment.

Dare:  Start your Gratitude Journal or Jar.  At the beginning and end of each day, write down 3 to 5 things that you are grateful for. When you're feeling the cobwebs of negativity approaching, read your journal and you'll be reminded of how good your life actually is.

Today I'm grateful for - my warm cozy home, the walk I'm going to take, and the sun that is going to make an appearance!

Your turn.  In the comments section, write down 3 things you are grateful for today.

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The 3 Amazing Benefits of Having Fun

It's officially Spring and I've decided to focus on having fun and lightening up. Spring is the perfect time to smile, have fun and dream big.

Personal growth doesn't have to feel like hard work - it can be fun and energizing!  In fact, some of my best lessons have been learned while I was being silly, laughing and simply letting go!

3 Benefits of Having Fun

Having fun helps you get out of your left brain and into your right brain.  That shift will help you see your problem from a different perspective....sometimes the solution is right in front of you and a little laughter and light-heartedness can help you see your goals or dreams or inspiration more clearly. 

Having fun helps you de-stress and relax. When you stress out, your immune system functions less efficiently.  So having fun can boost your immune function which improves your overall health!

Having fun releases endorphins and they send signals of confidence and satisfaction to the brain.  Yes, having fun can also help you feel more confident.  And who doesn't want to feel more confident?!

This Spring, commit to having fun and bringing joy and light-heartedness into your daily life.  You will notice a new spring in your step and you will radiate self-confidence and joy.  The benefits of fun are priceless!

And the best part about having fun.....

It's free!

So let's have some fun!

Truth: Life is meant to be enjoyed. Happiness is a beautiful, creative state of mind. Happiness is strongly linked to PLAY! Just look at children playing, they're laughing, smiling and joyful.


Dare: Add PLAY to your day. Dance. Skip. Be Spontaneous. Swing. Get a group of friends together for a game of good old-fashioned tag or touch football. There are many ways to add Play to your day. Yesterday, I splashed through all the wonderful puddles. Charley & I had a blast.

How will you add PLAY to your Day?  

Add your ideas to the comments and let's begin to play and have fun and Smile.

About Susan Ball:  Susan inspires her clients to live the life of their dreams with passion, joy, and love. Susan is an experienced international Life Coach helping people Live a Baggage-Free Life.

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Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's a Positive Thing

It's Tuesday! Let's play Truth or Dare

Truth - it is so easy to fall into the habit of using negative words. Negative words about yourself, someone else or life in general. Negativity has the snowball effect. When you roll with it, it grows larger and larger until it's out of control. Before you know it, your whole world is viewed through the lens of negativity.

Dare - use positive words. When you find yourself thinking or saying something negative, STOP, and ask what can I say that is positive. There is always something positive to say about yourself, someone else or your life.

Positivity Challenge - Leave a positively worded comment below. Challenge yourself to use only positive words, change your thoughts, change your words.

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4-Steps to Breaking Up With Your Limiting Beliefs

Limiting beliefs zap your energy and keep you stuck by telling you over and over again that you can't achieve your goals or that you're not worthy of acceptance and success.

The Top Ten Limiting Beliefs are:

• I'm too selfish/loud/shy
• I'm a bad.... (eg I'm a bad parent/friend/son)
• I will never be successful
• There is never enough money (or money doesn't grow on trees)
• It's too late for me to.... (change my career etc)
• I will never....(be successful, find love, travel etc)
• I always disappoint people
• I am not pretty/slim/clever enough
• I'm not good enough/I don't deserve...(happiness success, wealth, love)
• "I can't do it!"

In many cases, limiting beliefs are perceived as facts.  Beliefs are not facts.  Beliefs are your perception of the truth and perceptions can be changed.

Signs and symptoms of hidden Limiting Beliefs:

• You have negative thoughts or feelings more often than not
• Negative patterns keep repeating themselves - money problems, relationship problems, feelings of despair 

Breaking up with your limiting beliefs 

is the first step to a Baggage-Free Life. 
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The 4-Step Break-Up

Step One - Recognize and Acknowledge

Take a look at the top ten limiting beliefs list (top of post) and write down any that sound familiar to you.  Take a look at your list and jot down ways they are negatively impacting your life - money, relationships, career, goals.

Now that you have identified your personal limiting beliefs and acknowledged how they impact your life, it's time to change them.  Think of your limiting beliefs as your subconscious blueprint and blueprints can be changed so they reflect what you really want!

Step Two - It's Just Not True!

In fact, you need to recognize your limiting beliefs for the liars they are.  Then you will see that you can edit or completely delete your limiting beliefs.

Say to yourself, "it's possible that I believe some things about myself and the world around me that are not true."

Great!  You have successfully opened the door to let your new belief in.

Step Three - Everything is Replaceable

Time to replace the old negative limiting belief with a positive new enabling belief.

If you want to create permanent change, you can't just get rid of the old mental pattern, you have to replace it with a completely new one that will take its place.

Use positive words that focus your brain on possibility!

I Am - I Can - I Will - I Choose - I Am Willing To - My Potential 

There is never enough money turns to:

I Choose to Improve My Finances

It's impossible for me to be happy changes to:

I Allow Myself to be Happy

Say your new positive enabling belief out loud.  Does it feel true for you?  Not quite..change it until it feels fabulous.

When you say it, you want to feel confident and ready to move forward with a positive mindset. 

Step Four - Repetition and Reinforcement

Positive affirmations work by reprogramming your thinking to believe that what you want is possible, attainable, and already happening. 

My personal favourite affirmations are:

Every Day in Every Way, I'm Getting Better and Better

I Will Enjoy Every Minute of Every Day

I Am at Peace With My Decisions

I repeat these 3 times every morning before I get out of bed.

Write them down, say them out loud, sing them in the shower, know them off by heart so you can call upon them in a moment of self-doubt.

These are your new Positive Enabling Beliefs - Live Them!

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