5-Ways to Move from Hurt to Happy

So, you have split from your tormentor and you feel like your heart has been ripped out of your chest. It hurts - physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  Everything Hurts!  You feel torn apart, used, and valueless.

It's over and you're happy about that but the pain that you're experiencing seems unmanageable. Right now you're wondering if the empty feeling will last forever.  If you will ever heal and feel happiness again.

You Absolutely Will

It's a process that begins immediately when you are free from your tormentor.  It begins with you.

The only way you can accept new joy and happiness into your life is to make space for it. If your heart is filled full-up with pain and hurt, how can you be open to anything new?

People who hold on to these past hurts often relive the pain over and over in their minds. Sometimes a person can even get “stuck” in this pain, in this hurt, in this blame. In the role of the Victim.

I don't want you to get stuck in the role of the Victim.  It's so unhealthy and you only have one life, this one right now.  Do you really want to spend a lot of precious time living in the past?  Holding on to a situation or pain that happened long ago?  Or would you prefer to embrace the present and look forward to your future?

Let's Get Started:

Step One:  Be RAW and Let it Out!

Grieve - Let it Out - Cry - Scream - Punch a Pillow - Weep - Be Angry - Tell a Friend - Write in Your Journal - Write a Letter to Your Tormentor that you will never send - Stomp Your Feet

Have a good tantrum.  Now, take a deep breath and notice how much better you feel now that you have let it out.

Step Two: Let it Go!

Make a conscious decision to Let it Go! Hurts won't go away on their own.  You have to release them.  When you don’t make the conscious choice up-front, you end up self-sabotaging any effort to move on from this past hurt.

Step Three: Break Up With Your "Victim"

Living as a "Victim" simply means you have not taken personal responsibility for your Happiness. You are blaming others for situations and outcomes and bad feelings.  You need to take responsibility for your own happiness, and not put such power into the hands of another person. Why would you let the person who hurt you in the past have such power, right here, right now?

Step Four: Focus on Now

Now it’s time to let go. Let go of the past, and stop reliving it. Stop telling yourself that story where the protagonist — you — is forever the victim of this other person’s horrible actions. You can’t undo the past, all you can do is to make today the best day of your life.

Step Five: Forgive Them

We may not have to forget another person’s bad behaviours, but virtually everybody deserves our forgiveness. Sometimes we get stuck in our pain and our stubbornness, we can’t even imagine forgiveness. But forgiveness isn’t saying, “I agree with what you did.” Instead, it’s saying, “I don’t agree with what you did, but I forgive you anyway.”

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I know from personal experience that it's incredibly difficult to want to let go of your pain.  But when you decide that you want to and will let it go, you have taken the biggest, boldest step to your Personal Freedom and Wellness.

Join me on Thursday , September 10th where we'll dive deeply into the 5-Steps during my Hurt to Happy Success Call.

I'm going to talk in greater detail about the 5-Steps so you can enjoy the amazing benefits of breaking up with your victim mentality and step into your Big Bold Blissful life.

Title: Hurt to Happy with Susan Ball

Time: Thursday, September 10th at 8:00 pm EST (9 pm ADT)

Listening method: Phone + Web Simulcast

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Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's a Smile Thing

Truth: Take some time today to observe people and notice how many have frowns, or grumpy faces, or worried, hurried expressions.  And then look for the people who are smiling or have a relaxed, happy looking face.

I do this everyday and I'm constantly surprised that the grumps outnumber the happys!  

Smiling is contagious, sexy and wants to be done all the time! 

Dare: Add an over-abundance of smiling to your day!  There is no limit to the number of times your can smile each day.  There is no bad side effects.

The only effect that smiling will have on your day is elevating your joy factor.  Period.

Oh, one other big,huge, benefit:  When you smile at someone, you share joy and that's a good thing!

7 day Challenge: 

Wake Up and Smile!

Continue smiling throughout your day

Commit to smiling at one stranger every day.

Get your grumpy face off and put your smiling face on.

Smiling is easy, attractive, sexy, and contagious - Do It!

Make it a Great |Day!

The 3 Amazing Benefits of Having Fun

It's officially Spring and I've decided to focus on having fun and lightening up. Spring is the perfect time to smile, have fun and dream big.

Personal growth doesn't have to feel like hard work - it can be fun and energizing!  In fact, some of my best lessons have been learned while I was being silly, laughing and simply letting go!

3 Benefits of Having Fun

Having fun helps you get out of your left brain and into your right brain.  That shift will help you see your problem from a different perspective....sometimes the solution is right in front of you and a little laughter and light-heartedness can help you see your goals or dreams or inspiration more clearly. 

Having fun helps you de-stress and relax. When you stress out, your immune system functions less efficiently.  So having fun can boost your immune function which improves your overall health!

Having fun releases endorphins and they send signals of confidence and satisfaction to the brain.  Yes, having fun can also help you feel more confident.  And who doesn't want to feel more confident?!

This Spring, commit to having fun and bringing joy and light-heartedness into your daily life.  You will notice a new spring in your step and you will radiate self-confidence and joy.  The benefits of fun are priceless!

And the best part about having fun.....

It's free!

So let's have some fun!

Truth: Life is meant to be enjoyed. Happiness is a beautiful, creative state of mind. Happiness is strongly linked to PLAY! Just look at children playing, they're laughing, smiling and joyful.


Dare: Add PLAY to your day. Dance. Skip. Be Spontaneous. Swing. Get a group of friends together for a game of good old-fashioned tag or touch football. There are many ways to add Play to your day. Yesterday, I splashed through all the wonderful puddles. Charley & I had a blast.

How will you add PLAY to your Day?  

Add your ideas to the comments and let's begin to play and have fun and Smile.

About Susan Ball:  Susan inspires her clients to live the life of their dreams with passion, joy, and love. Susan is an experienced international Life Coach helping people Live a Baggage-Free Life.

Learn more about Susan by visiting her Online, on Facebook

Practice Gratitude in times of Darkness

I am a firm believer in the power of Gratitude.  I also hate winter - shivering, cold, dark winter.

My attitude of gratitude is strongest during the winter.  It is what keeps me smiling and looking forward.  It is a blessing to be able to look outside and be grateful.  Otherwise, I would probably get labelled with some debillitating dis-ease.

In times of Darkness, there is always something to be grateful for. Period.

Winter is long in Canada and cold.  Yesterday it was -34C.  Only a short walk with the dog because the ground is too cold for his feet.  As we walked in the bitter cold, I chose to focus on what I was grateful for.  This is what I discovered:

• the bright blue sky. It was stunning.
• my leg warmers.  Last minute addition but they allowed me to climb snow banks and not get snow in my boots!
• hot chocolate.  Yummy.  Looking forward to a big cup at home.
• smiles. Even though it was freezing, I met others and we would share a smile and a frosty Hi.
• crunchy snow.  I love the sound.  

By choosing to focus on things I'm grateful for, I actually enjoyed my winter walk.

Gratitude is about finding the smallest hint of good in the bad.  Turning the negative into a positive.  Finding a hint of blue among the darkness.

Start turning the darkness into light.  Focus on what you are grateful for.  Include things you take for granted - walking, talking, health, love, a home, heat, food.

One act of gratitude today will have a positive impact.  One act of gratitude will grow into two and then three and then several.

Practice.  When you are challenged, think about something you are grateful for - going home, a delicious dinner, the sunshine.  You'll smile and your challenge will seem easier to handle.

Winter is here for a while.  I will hold onto my Attitude of Gratitude to lessen the challenge of the darkness and the bitter cold.

About Susan Ball:  Susan inspires her clients to live the life of their dreams with passion, joy, and love. Susan is an experienced international Life Coach helping people discover and live their ideal life through NLP, Mindfulness, and G.R.A.C.E.

Learn more about Susan by visiting her Online, on Facebook

Help Me Celebrate My Birthday - Take Advantage of My Special

Feeling Stuck?  Feel like your Spinning and Going Nowhere? Is it time for a Change?

October is my Birthday Month and I celebrated my fabulous 58th on the 4th of October!

To celebrate, I'm offering a special Birthday Coaching Rate of $58 per session for the month of October.

Get in touch and start living your life with joy, happiness, freedom and authenticity.

PS - pass on the good news.

Call 902.660.2701 to chat!

Yes, I Want to Get Unstuck!

Special Rate expires October 31, 2014.

Happiness is a Gratitude Shift

Feeling grateful or thankful each day for the little things in your life opens the door to happiness.

Pure joy comes to you when you wake up in the morning and say:

Thanks for this Day!

I Won't Blow it

I Promise to Smile, Share and Practice Gratitude

You will feel the positive effects on your outlook and your life as soon as you shift your focus to gratitude, gratefulness, thanks, and thankfulness.

One week is all it will take to develop your ability to make the shift to gratitude.  For 7 days, take the time to write down 5 things or people or places or experiences you are grateful for.  

What Am I Grateful for Today?

Have an amazing day.  Look around you and see all the richness in your life and Be Grateful!

Say "YES" to Yourself and Create Your Best Relationship with You!

Best advice. Think about all the times you say "yes" when you really wanted to say no. Say Yes to Yourself and create your best relationship with you!

To create space for success and happiness in your life, it's important to make time for you.  How?  By saying no to others and yes to you.

Grab your copy of my Yes-No Worksheet and really explore your yes vs no options.  The worksheet will show you what you're missing when you say yes to stuff and then more stuff.

Start easy with 2 yes items that you want to change to no right away.  Write down a variety of ways you can say no (no maybes!).  Play with the words but always be clear that your answer is no.  Then choose the wording that feels right and practice, practice, practice.  

Once you have gotten your first no out of the way, you'll feel so much better, less stressed and you won't grow a huge wart on your nose!  The next no will be easier.

After you say no to something else, say yes to you.  Use the time to do something you "want" to do and not something you should do.

Have you scheduled your 30-Minute Free Consultation?

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Soar With Your Dreams Inspired Life Vision Board Workshop

Close your eyes and imagine a workshop filled with passion, artistic expression, colour, and joy. Imagine the amazing creativity that would flow onto your personal Inspired Life Vision Board. Oh, the possibilities!

In this fun and informal workshop, Susan will help you focus and visualize your ideal life’s vision filled with what you want to be, do, or have. You will open your Inspired Imagination and see, feel, hear and touch your personal vision for your life.

Your inner artist will be inspired by Sadie, a passionate and colourful artist. She will open your artistic senses and give you the tools to put your passion on paper.

You will have fun creating your own personal vision board that visually represents your goals and dreams.

The vision board will help you focus your intent and help you start to manifest your dreams into reality. Your vision board will help you attract the things you want in your life.

It's time to liberate your imagination, manifest your goals, and soar with your dreams!

Cost: $30.00 - includes all materials
When: Saturday, February 8
Time: 10 am to 3 pm
Where: JTW Natural Health Guidance Centre
106 Victoria St. East
Amherst, NS

Only 10 Spots Available! Pre-Payment is required to reserve your spot!

This workshop will sell-out quickly - Register and Pay by Calling Charlene at 667-1119

Your Journey to Wellness Begins with a Question

Today, I'm going start a regular Honesty Thursday series of posts.  I want to talk about how I have changed my way of thinking and as a result improved my lifestyle.

I have clients who will say to me I want to be like you to which I respond You Can with a little work and authenticity!  There is no magic pill, potion or spell that I can prescribe that will make you get up in the morning with a smile on your face looking forward to the day as an adventure in the making.  The prescription writer is YOU!

Not too long ago I found myself dreading the mornings.  I would wake up thinking yuck, another friggin' day, when will this end, what is the purpose of getting up!  I was dreary to say the least with absolutely no plans for the future and nothing to look forward to.  I was on the cusp of filling my prescription for anti-depressants. I was low and the few friends I had probably hated to hear from me.

I had no money.  I had a dead-end job in a big shiny corporate office.  I squeezed myself into a subway car at a god-awful hour of the morning to be surrounded by miserable looking lemmings.  I had a relationship that had run its course.  I had decided that my present and future would be lonely, broke, and defeated.

Sound Familiar?!?  I'm sure there are folks reading this right now who can relate to how I was feeling about life and you're wondering how did I turn it around.

It started with a good and true friend.  They are the friends who ask you the hard questions.  These are the friends you want.  Tip:  Get rid of the nodders!

We were having a coffee and I was doing my usual life is so rotten, I hate my life, blah, blah, blah.  She kept asking me one question:

So, What Are You Going to Do About It?

What a stupid, irritating question!  I was livid.  I wanted her to find the solution for me, NOW!  For some odd reason, my friend wouldn't cooperate and kept asking me that question.  I went home and decided I would not be friends with her anymore which of course, added to my Down on Life Story.  

A strange thing was happening though.....I couldn't get that question out of my head!  When I would think about my finances and wanted to wallow in self-pity, this little voice would ask "Well, Susan, what are you going to do about it?"  The question followed me everyday and everywhere. I wanted to answer the question just so it would go away!

To begin your Journey to Wellness, here are your first steps:

1. Honestly think about your friends and family and determine who are the "nodders".  Nodders will not help you in your journey.  Drop them from your friends list and replace them with true friends who will ask you to be accountable to you.
2. When you find yourself feeling down because you're thinking about your debts, or how you will never be able to travel to Australia, or how you will be stuck in your dead-end job forever,

STOP, take a deep breath and ask

"So, ____________, what are you going to do about it?"

When we get together next Thursday, you will have decided which friends will truly help you on your Journey to Wellness and you will have started to think about stepping out of self-pity mode into a I Can Turn this Around space.  And that's where we will pick up.....Setting Small Chunky Baby Step Goals.

I'm really looking forward to your comments as you move along with me.  It will be a sort of an e-course in a casual way.  I will provide worksheets, tips and tricks and how-tos.  The end result will be one Incredibly, Fabulous You!

Happy Canada Day!! Moslon Canadian - The Rant(with English subtitle)

Take it away Joe.

Life is like Coffee Movie - Inspiration for Happiness!

The message in this movie is wonderful and thought provoking.  Enjoy watching then grab a cup of coffee or tea or juice and focus on the richness and pleasure your drink brings you.  Use all your senses to explore your current cuppa and practice Living in the Present Moment.

Life is like Coffee Movie: Do you know people that just seem to be happier in general? Do you say to yourself, "I want to be more like them"? Often, the happiest people in the world don't have the best of everything...they just make the best of everything!

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For Your Health Choose A New Balanced Lifestyle

Choose Work/Life Balance

Finding your work/life balance is worth its weight in gold.  Working long hours, forgoing lunch, being tied to your smart phone 24/7, and getting home late are quickly becoming the norm for the majority of people.  Sadly, this is beyond unhealthy - causing stress, relationship breakdowns, illness, guilt and so-on.  In some cases in a workholic's personal dictionary "rest" and "relaxation" are synonymous with "irresponsibility" and "slacking".

When you continuously drive yourself to work, work, work, you will eventually begin to run on fumes and then you will get sick and then you will shut down completely!  All of this is preventable with a little balance.  Remember this:  No one looks back on their lives at age eighty and says, "Gee, I wish I'd spent less time with my family and friends and more time at the office."

Action Step - Spend at least 30 minutes outside in the fresh air during the work day.  It will rejuvenate you!  Set aside time in the evenings after work that is your "adventure time" and stick with it.  Once you have set your adventure time on the calender, do it.  Go for a walk, shopping, a play, or sit in a quiet space and read a book.  The activity you choose is less important then taking the time. 

Action Step - Summer is the perfect time to unplug from technology.  Leave your cell phone and tablet at home!  When you go to the beach, spend your time focused on enjoying the sand, water, family, friends, the book you're reading, just simply sitting in the breeze or playing with your kids.  When you're free of your technology baggage, you will be able to enjoy all the sights and sounds of your vacation..  Instead of waiting for the phone to ring (future), you'll be enjoying life in the present moment. 

Change the Channel

Just like on your TV when the picture is bringing you down, you can choose to change the channel and get a new picture.   Negative thoughts are accompanied by pictures of the things that are stopping you.  Focus on the negative image and visualize it turning black and white and getting smaller and smaller until it's a little dot.  Now pick up the dot and throw it over your shoulder so it's behind you.

What you think becomes your reality - the perfect reason to take control and Fire Your Negative Committee.

Imagine the possibilities when you free yourself from negative thoughts by choosing to focus on positive thoughts, choosing to visualize things going amazingly well, believing with absolute conviction that you will make it happen!

Where do You Live Everyday?

In the Past?  In the Future?  In the Present?

There is a famous quote that I love to share simply because it is the most valuable lesson you will teach yourself.

If you are feeling depressed, think very carefully about where you're living.  Are you mulling over the past?  Going over situations that occurred yesterday, a decade ago, last week?  Are you focused on how you were mistreated in some past relationship? Or some other "thing", "person", or "situation" that happened oh so long ago?

Be honest with yourself and really sit down and think about what you're thinking about.

Change happens when you realize that it's time to clear the clutter and release the dusty old things and make room for fresh new things.

Feeling sorry for yourself, angry toward others, guilty, or ashamed for getting the short end of the stick in the past will only continue to keep you from achieving happiness in the present and future.

How to clear the dusty clutter of the past:

The Past Isn't Going to Get Any Better:  That's right.  Recognize that you can't go back and change, fix, improve, or otherwise manage your past.  It's Over...It's Done and no amount of holding on to it, focusing on it, crying over it will change it.

Learn From the Past:  Look at your past and ask yourself - What Did I Learn?  How Do I Want To Apply The Lesson to My Present and Future?

Let It Go:  Hanging onto the past with angry and resentment and hurt feelings will do absolutely nothing to improve your present.  You are simply carrying a heavy ball and chain around your ankle everywhere you go.  Do you want to drag the chains of the past with you?

Choose Forgiveness:  Forgiveness is a conscious choice.  Forgive yourself and forgive those who have wronged you.  Forgiveness frees you to live your life, pursue your dreams, look forward with joy to the future, and enjoy every moment of the present!

It's easier to forgive others when you practice forgiving yourself.

As you reflect on your life, what could you forgive yourself for? 

When you have clarity on something that could be forgiven, say to yourself: 

I forgive myself for ________________     Then let it go. 

Next Post:  Living in the Future....Til next time Listen, Recognize, Learn and Forgive

Your Confidence Diary

A great way to boost your confidence is to keep a confidence diary.

It is a smart tool to just remind yourself just how good you really are and what you have to be thankful for and pleased about in your life right now.

Either buy yourself a notebook or a day to view diary and once a week for the next month I’d like you to jot down your answers to the following confidence questions.

Don’t give me any excuses about you haven’t got the time to do it!

Take just 10 minutes per week, sit down and jot down your thoughts to:

1.   What have I got to be grateful for in my life right now?

2.   What am I happy about in my life right now?

3.   Why am I happy about these things?

4.   What did I accomplish last week?

5.   What am I excited about in my life right now?

6.   Who do I love and appreciate in my life? Who do I like hanging around? Why?

7.   Who loves and appreciates me for what I am? Warts ‘n all!

Answer these questions at the start of each week and it will set you up for success.

If you need a booster midweek, then by all means answer them again whenever you want to feel centred and remind yourself of what you have got going for yourself in your life right now.

In addition, do this NLP Confidence Boosting Exercise...do it everyday and you will instantly notice a new you with a positive focus on you! 


When you approach your life confidently, you will make every day a Great Day and translate your outstanding individual potential into great success!


You are amazing - your life is filled with joy - Enjoy Every Minute!

Rekindle Joy and Playfulness

Spring is here!  Spring  is a magical time of renewal and rejuvenation.  It's the perfect time year to rekindle your sense of joy and playfulness. Being playful reduces stress and stimulates creativity.

• Add Play Days to your calendar.
• Give yourself permission to play and have fun.
• Take "Recess" instead of lunch.
• Live everyday with curiosity.
• Explore more.
• Do something new simply because it looks interesting.
• Share positive and pleasant news with others.
• Savour pleasant experiences and extend positive emotions.
• Let loose and be silly.
• Laugh Lots! You will positively change your outlook, mood and your life!
• Make Friends with and Embrace Change and Flexibility.

Have Fun..... Let Loose........ Celebrate and Embrace your Life!

"Life is playfulness...We need to play so that we can rediscover the magic all around us." Flora Colao

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