5-Ways to Move from Hurt to Happy

So, you have split from your tormentor and you feel like your heart has been ripped out of your chest. It hurts - physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  Everything Hurts!  You feel torn apart, used, and valueless.

It's over and you're happy about that but the pain that you're experiencing seems unmanageable. Right now you're wondering if the empty feeling will last forever.  If you will ever heal and feel happiness again.

You Absolutely Will

It's a process that begins immediately when you are free from your tormentor.  It begins with you.

The only way you can accept new joy and happiness into your life is to make space for it. If your heart is filled full-up with pain and hurt, how can you be open to anything new?

People who hold on to these past hurts often relive the pain over and over in their minds. Sometimes a person can even get “stuck” in this pain, in this hurt, in this blame. In the role of the Victim.

I don't want you to get stuck in the role of the Victim.  It's so unhealthy and you only have one life, this one right now.  Do you really want to spend a lot of precious time living in the past?  Holding on to a situation or pain that happened long ago?  Or would you prefer to embrace the present and look forward to your future?

Let's Get Started:

Step One:  Be RAW and Let it Out!

Grieve - Let it Out - Cry - Scream - Punch a Pillow - Weep - Be Angry - Tell a Friend - Write in Your Journal - Write a Letter to Your Tormentor that you will never send - Stomp Your Feet

Have a good tantrum.  Now, take a deep breath and notice how much better you feel now that you have let it out.

Step Two: Let it Go!

Make a conscious decision to Let it Go! Hurts won't go away on their own.  You have to release them.  When you don’t make the conscious choice up-front, you end up self-sabotaging any effort to move on from this past hurt.

Step Three: Break Up With Your "Victim"

Living as a "Victim" simply means you have not taken personal responsibility for your Happiness. You are blaming others for situations and outcomes and bad feelings.  You need to take responsibility for your own happiness, and not put such power into the hands of another person. Why would you let the person who hurt you in the past have such power, right here, right now?

Step Four: Focus on Now

Now it’s time to let go. Let go of the past, and stop reliving it. Stop telling yourself that story where the protagonist — you — is forever the victim of this other person’s horrible actions. You can’t undo the past, all you can do is to make today the best day of your life.

Step Five: Forgive Them

We may not have to forget another person’s bad behaviours, but virtually everybody deserves our forgiveness. Sometimes we get stuck in our pain and our stubbornness, we can’t even imagine forgiveness. But forgiveness isn’t saying, “I agree with what you did.” Instead, it’s saying, “I don’t agree with what you did, but I forgive you anyway.”

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I know from personal experience that it's incredibly difficult to want to let go of your pain.  But when you decide that you want to and will let it go, you have taken the biggest, boldest step to your Personal Freedom and Wellness.

Join me on Thursday , September 10th where we'll dive deeply into the 5-Steps during my Hurt to Happy Success Call.

I'm going to talk in greater detail about the 5-Steps so you can enjoy the amazing benefits of breaking up with your victim mentality and step into your Big Bold Blissful life.

Title: Hurt to Happy with Susan Ball

Time: Thursday, September 10th at 8:00 pm EST (9 pm ADT)

Listening method: Phone + Web Simulcast

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5-Steps to Transform from Victim to Victor

You made a courageous, big, bold decision to leave a toxic relationship and I want to congratulate you for your tenaciousness!

It takes a lot of determination and sometimes a leap of faith to finally say: "That's it, I've had enough. I'm outta here!"

Because of your fabulous decision to ditch your tormentor, you are no longer experiencing that person's daily verbal and emotional assaults. You have stepped into your Freedom and now you have two paths to choose from:

1)  The Path of the Victim:

Wallowing in self-pity, victim, sufferer, depressed, unhappy, blaming, complaining, hopeless

Falling down as victim, wallowing in self-pity,or being a sufferer reverses your big, bold, step.  Once you accept a victim-mentality you spend your precious time looking for someone to blame or complaining in general.

It is a no-win model! There is no value in continuing to focus on the whys, maybes, and what ifs. It is not a healing model.  It’s a model that keeps your tied to your toxic relationship and living in the past.

2) The Path of the Victor:

Survivor, Thriver, Victor, Courageous, Confident, Inspired, Happy, Grateful, Hopeful

Choose the Path of the Victor!

Stepping into life as a Victor and the Creator of Your Own Destiny is empowering, enriching, and lifesaving.  When you're the Victor, you see each step you take in your healing journey as progress. You don't look back or want to find explanations for the past.  You want to experience your life, your way, in the present moment while creating your amazing future.

Life is short.  Sometimes it can be cut even shorter.  When you emerge as a Victor ready to take on the challenge of claiming responsibility for your life and your actions, you don't waste precious time rehashing the past looking for answers because you're way too busy having fun, setting goals, and seeing your future as an adventure of your making.

The victor is not afraid to fail, or feel uncomfortable by the effort required to work hard and succeed.

5-Steps to Transform From Victim to Victor

Step One - Gratitude, Gratitude and More Gratitude

There is always something to be grateful for.  The smallest of things bring me the greatest gratitude. When you are “stuck” or feeling down, gratitude will provide the way out.  Gratitude puts situations into perspective. When we can see the good as well as the bad, it becomes more difficult to complain and stay stuck.  Gratitude focuses our attention on what we have.

Step Two - Let it Go!

What can I release? Let go of?  I bet you're holding on to all kinds of negative junk.  The junk you're holding on to is cluttering your mind and your path forward.  Yeah, that's the truth! The things you hold on to, bear grudges or perhaps feel angry and hurt about cloud your mind and prevent you from being the best you can be.

Step Three - Building Your Relationship with Authentic You

The authentic self is the real, genuine you. It is the you that is buried deep and is the very core of your being. The authentic self is a culmination of all things that are you – knowledge, talents, skills, attitude, and perspective. It isn’t defined by your placement in a family unit or career. 

Finding the truth about who you really are and what is important to you takes honesty, awareness, and some time. 

Step Four - Get in Front of Your Challenges

It is so easy to get stopped dead in your tracks when you start to think about all the challenges in your path.  In fact, when you overthink your “to do” list, you could give up on your journey and I don’t want you to do that!

Challenges are everywhere in your life.  It’s not the challenge that will keep you stuck, it’s how you handle it.  And the best way to handle challenges is to get out in front of them.

Step Five - Embrace Your Possibilities

One of the most powerful tools anyone can use on a daily basis is Positive Affirmations. Every time you write or say your affirmation, you are reinforcing your new positive belief and overwriting your old negative one.

You're Ready to Thrive: Live Life Fearlessly

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