Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's a Patience Thing

Truth: We have officially arrived.  December is beginning and that means a steady race to Christmas.  We have all done it.  Sadly, we have also grumbled and complained endlessly about long lines, lack of service, empty shelves and the crowds.

Grumble and complain all you can but it won't make one bit of difference.  You're going to be in crowded, hot stores looking for a needle in a haystack.  That's the truth.  

Change your experience by changing your attitude!

All that grumbling and complaining won't change a thing!

Dare: When we start any task with a "this is going to suck" attitude, it will.  Change your attitude to this is going to be a fun adventure and you will immediately find yourself in a better mood!

Then you can:  Smile at the cashier.  Smile at the person behind you or in front of you in the line. When you're waiting your turn, hum or sing to the music that's playing.  Tap your toes to the beat. Pay attention to a small child paying for his gifts and if he's short, pitch in the extra.  Stop and sit and just look at the decorations and enjoy the music and the sounds.  Oh yeah, pay it forward at least once while you're out and about shopping.

Remember to be grateful!  

Choose to Make it a Great Shopping Adventure.

7 day Challenge: 

Wake Up and Smile!

Close Your Eyes & Remember that

Giving is Joyful
Decide that you will enjoy your shopping day.

Take time to sit and enjoy the music, sights, and sounds.

Pay it forward at least once.

Focus on the 10 people who were kind to you.

Say Merry Christmas to the staff & 

random people on your journey.

Practice Patience & Joy will Follow!

Make it a Great Day!

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Counting My Blessings & Creating Memories

About 5 years ago, I decided that Christmas was way too commercial and that I really didn't want to add to the massive pile of stuff under the tree.  I did some serious soul searching and reminiscing about Christmases past.  I wanted to find the feeling that was missing. What made Christmas special?

It wasn't the gifts.  It was the memories.  The laughter.  The tears.  The arguing. The singing.  The crafting and cooking.  The hugs and the smiles.

I can barely remember any gifts I've received and when I asked my grown children they were hard pressed to remember as well.

But what we did remember was moments.  Some good and some bad.  But definitely moments.

My decision was final.  I would create memories and fully enjoy moments with my family, friends, and people.

On November 14th, my youngest daughter celebrated her 30th birthday and to honour my commitment to memories, we all went to Cuba for a fun-filled week of sun, sand, and surf. Oh, a few cervesas and mojitos as well!

Me and my beautiful daughter, Ashley Maria

For all that she and I went through at the hands of my abuser, this represents how precious happy memories and blissful moments are.  She will forever remember our time in Cuba and for that I am truly blessed.

As the holiday approaches, think about small changes you can make that will let you gift memories that your loved ones will truly cherish.

6-Benefits of Memories over Material Gifts:

1. Memories can be created for any budget.  Free to no limits.  It's your choice but in the end, they are all priceless.
2. Memories won't break or get stuffed in closet or be re-gifted.
3. Memories will be spoken about for years to come.
4. They are truly personal and representative of a wonderful moment in a special relationship.
5. They are unique and one-of-a-kind.  And I love that!
6. They are Your Blessings to be Counted!

Take one material gift off your list and replace it with a special moment you can create.  You will have created a lifetime of memories.  It's a change worth making.  It's healing and empowering and inspirational.  You will begin to realize how blessed you really are.

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3 Bold Steps to Kick-Start Healing After a Toxic Relationship

When I first left my abuser, I was obsessed and I mean obsessed, with finding the reason why he did what he did.  I had rationalized that if I discovered what was wrong with him, I could move on and get started on living my life again.

I spent a great deal of my life analyzing his behaviour and developing varied and compelling diagnoses.  With every diagnosis, I had lists of supporting evidence.  

I had all sorts of them:  Narcissist, Middle Child Syndrome, Toxic Parents, Anger Management, Alcohol Abuse, and so on 

But every diagnosis, only offered fleeting happiness.  I would celebrate what I thought was the perfect reason only to realize that it did not heal my hurt or my heart or my life.  I continued to feel hurt and lonely and lost.

It wasn't until I realized that not one of the "labels" that I was giving him was going to change a damn thing.  It really didn't matter if he was a narcissist or had nasty parents.  The bottom line: He was a fu*king class A dick. Period.

He hurt me because he could and because he wanted to.  

No fancy labels needed!

Once I stopped analyzing him, I was able to focus on me, my life, and my healing.  That moment was the beginning of my Healing Journey.  It was the moment I stepped into being a Victor!

I focused on these 3 Bold Steps:

Step One: Acceptance

This is a big, healing step.  It's time to own that it happened.  It just happened.  It was awful and painful and hurtful but it represents something that happened in your life that will ultimately shape you and create a better version of you.

Hot Tip: Give it a Name.  I call my period of abuse "The Incident".  When I speak with people, I can simply state when The Incident happened or after The Incident.  A generic name immediately diminishes any power your past has over your present and future.

Step Two: Looking Inward

Now you have time to take a close look at what you want and need in your life.  Take the time to really dive deep into your feelings and values:  What makes you smile.  What makes you feel happy. Where do you see yourself in one-year.  Two-years.  What do need in a partner.  What are your values - honesty, freedom, spirituality, humour, intelligence and so on.

Hot Tip: Dive Deep & Take Your Time.  What you value in life and what is acceptable and not acceptable is so very important to your future peace and happiness.  Take all the time you need to dive deep into your needs and wants.  Review.  Revise.  Release the ones that don't feel good.  

Step Three: Putting Me First

You are the most valuable player in your life.  Your well being, needs, wants, desires and passions come first.  Push back - but what about so-and-so, or my kids, or my job?  Yes, they are important but if you do not put yourself first, your mental, physical, and emotional health will quickly deteriorate and you will be of little value to anyone including yourself!

Hot Tip:  Do One Thing Every Day That is Just for You.  One thing is all that is needed.  It can be for five minutes, one-hour, or an entire evening.  That's your choice each day.  Have a quiet tea or coffee without interruption.  Read a chapter.  Chat on the phone with a happy friend.  Be creative.  Take a walk.  Go skating.  

One Simple Pleasure per Day will Improve Your Mood, Your Health, and Your Relationships!

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Life is too Short to Let Victim Define You

Your story is so much more than what "happened" to you.  

I got all caught up in my victim story.  It was comfortable there.  I could talk about it.  I could let it comfort me.  I could let it determine how I acted. My life made sense.

I hung onto my story because I was afraid to let it go.  Letting it go felt like I would fall into a dark abyss filled with nothing and no-one. I was terrified of the emptiness that I thought would be the result of letting my story go.

When I did decide to let that story go and let go of the past hurts, I walked into my greatest story. One that keeps growing and improving.   I realized that my story had taught me so much about what I wanted in my life.  What was acceptable and who I would embrace on my new journey. Consciously deciding to let my past go, was the most terrifying and rewarding experience rolled together! I am so happy I stepped out of my past, healed and stepped into my brilliant present. I want to share my 5-Steps to Transform from Victim to Victor I'm hosting a Free Webinar that will give you the tools to take the leap. In this FREE Webinar, you will discover how to... Let Go of Your Fear Boldly Change Your Story Create Big Authentic Changes Embrace your Victor Life is too Short to Let Victim Define You Thursday, 29 October 2015, at 08:00 pm EST; 09:00 AST Click Here to Register See you on Thursday, Susan xo PS: Please share with your friends and colleagues. Click the social share buttons and let others know about this life-changing Free Webinar!

5-Signs You Are Holding on to the Past for Dear Life

You did it.  You took the first step and left him behind and I want to congratulate you for the courageous step you took when you left your toxic, emotionally abusive partner.

It was a bad relationship and you were consistently criticized, bullied, ridiculed, and abandoned. You decided that it was time to say goodbye to the person and walk out the door.  You decided you want and deserve a better life. 

But there's a problem that's standing in your way of a your new, life and happiness:  You are holding on to your Past for Dear Life.

5-Signs that You are Guilty of Holding On:

1. You won't stop talking about it.  The incident I mean.  You want to tell everyone who will listen and even those who don't want to but are stuck! 
2. You fully embrace your victim label.  You hold onto your story and keep telling it so you can rationalize your "victimness" and hang on to it for dear life.
3. You haven't moved forward.  Not one little step.  You can only be a validated victim if you stay right where you are.
4. You haven't set any new goals.  No new action steps to change your life.  You haven't set a dream or rekindled a passion.  Nothing.  Just stuck.
5. You are losing friends, family, colleagues and acquaintances.  People are jumping ship.

When you leave a toxic, painful relationship, you leave with scars on your heart but you also leave with your Free Will to Create a Life You Love.  But in order to embrace your new happiness and heal your scars, you have to leave your story in the past. You have to let go of your victim; she's holding you back.

The most common reason for hanging on for dear life is familiarity.  It is a familiar place to be.  You are a victim and there is safety in that label.  If you hang on to your story and your hurt then no one else can get in and do it again. 

It's scary to let go of something familiar and let yourself fall freely into your new chapter.  But it is the best and only thing to do when you want to embrace and love yourself unconditionally.

While you're holding on to your "victim", you are closing off a space for your victor to flourish. Victors love themselves unconditionally.  They recognize that they have taken big, bold, courageous steps to freedom and they celebrate their tenacity.  Victors thrive and create a life that has meaning to them. They wake up in the morning ready for their next adventure.  They are fully and completely alive.

Victors know what they want, what is acceptable and how they will achieve their goals.

Your Victor Blossoms When You Release Your Victim

I cannot express to you the joy and the fun you will have in your life when you decide to let your victim go! There is no future in holding on!

I know it's scary but you are worth the plunge.  Once you let the victim go, you will begin to see all the possibilities that are available to you.  And your hands and heart will be open to grabbing on to them. 

You're amazing and you're on your way to a fantastic life built by you, for you.

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Blissful Self-Love 5 Day Challenge

I'm so excited to be hosting my Blissful Self-Love Challenge.  All the goodness starts on Monday, October 19th and it's totally Free!

For 5 days, I will send you emails with strategies, tips, and resources to boost your Self-Love, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth and Confidence.

You will Silence Your Inner Critic and Ignite Your Confidence.

Take the Challenge and Learn to Love You Unconditionally!

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True Gratitude Includes the Ugly Events

It is Thanksgiving in Canada and as we all reflect on what we are grateful for, it's natural to come up with the good ones first - food, family, friends, health, job, etc.

But what about the ugly events in your life that changed you?  Are you grateful you were fired from your job?  Or your lover dumped you? Or ............. fill in the blank?

The ugly ones are the events that make the biggest and most profound changes in our lives.  Yet, they are overlooked when we practice gratitude.

For me, I can look back at the abusive incident my life and I'm grateful for the lessons I learned and in some ways, I'm grateful it happened.

That may sound crazy but it's not.  When that happened and my world fell apart, I had no choice but to rebuild and start over and that's what I'm grateful for because I was forced to look inside for what I wanted in my life.  What felt authentic to me.  What I had left behind that I wanted to reclaim.  How I got sucked into his passions at the expense of my own.

These were life-changing questions and when I dedicated time and energy to answering them in my voice, I discovered who I am and what I wanted in Life.  I found the confidence to move forward into my unstoppable life.

The Ugly Events are the most important moments in our life.  They are the ones that make us pause and think about our own passions and desires.

A little Ugly Events Challenge for Thanksgiving:

• Sit quietly with a cup of tea (or whatever you desire!) and think back to the big, ugly events in your life.
• Write them down and then reflect on what has changed for the better since that day
• Fired but started your own business - gratitude
• Dumped but became clear on what values & attributes your life-partner will have - gratitude
• Dumped but took the time to fall in love with yourself - gratitude
• Totaled the car but got enough insurance money to buy a vintage convertible - gratitude
• For each Ugly Event, write down one significant positive change in your Gratitude Journal
• I am Grateful for the opportunity to start my own business
• Once every month, spend time reflecting on the Ugly Events and writing down one positive change that happened that you are now grateful for

Get Cozy with Your Ugly Events Because They are the Magical Ones

Happy Thanksgiving!

It's My Birthday & I'm Giving Gifts

The month of October is one of my favourites.  The leaves change colour for a spectacular display for our enjoyment.  We get to enjoy all things pumpkin - tea, cheesecake, pies, and muffins.  All Hallows' Eve arrives and little ghosts and goblins arrive to make us smile.  Oh and my favourite - my birthday!

In celebration, I'm giving gifts.  Three to be exact.

1. Daily Greatness Journal - most amazing journal you will ever own - Value $85 US - Draw Date October 13th - Dailygreatness Journal Details
2. Enrollment in Big.Bold.Bliss. Bootcamp - Value $197 US - Big.Bold.Blissful. Bootcamp - Check it Out
3. Blissful Self-Love Session - 45 minutes with Me - Value $150 US

In order to win, you must enter the contest that will be posted individually for each prize. So, let's get started:

Good Luck!

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7-Ways Your Life Will Blossom When You Release "Why"

I remember when I left my tormentor, I was emotionally tortured by "WHY".  I screamed why at the top of my lungs.  It started all my questions: Why did he do it?  Why wasn't I good enough? Why did this happen to me? 

I searched and searched for answers but the "why" was never ending and one why led to the next why. The answers were simply not satisfying and I was stuck.  Not moving forward.  Living with "him" even though I had physically left.  

When you're firmly hugging your why, it's impossible to embrace your new "how" and "when". Moving forward, igniting your confidence and sparking your true Rebel Thriver only happen when you release why.

How and when are personal power questions that keep you moving toward your goal of a confident, independent, and happy life.  

Here's what happens when you Embrace "How" & "When"

YOU WILL wake up every day energized, joyful, confident, and excited about the possibilities
YOU WILL put yourself first, say No without guilt, and stand up for your values
YOU WILL attract amazing, supportive and loving people into your life
YOU WILL be confident and comfortable, complete yourself, and will easily recognize and connect with those who share your values and enthusiasm
YOU WILL spark your sense of adventure, wonder & joy
YOU WILL recognize increased intimacy and mutually rewarding relationships
YOU WILL embrace your  Big. Bold. Blissful. Life!

To your amazing journey, Susan xo

PS: Feel free to read Why is a Dirty Word to learn how detrimental why is to your healing journey.

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5-Ways to Move from Hurt to Happy

So, you have split from your tormentor and you feel like your heart has been ripped out of your chest. It hurts - physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  Everything Hurts!  You feel torn apart, used, and valueless.

It's over and you're happy about that but the pain that you're experiencing seems unmanageable. Right now you're wondering if the empty feeling will last forever.  If you will ever heal and feel happiness again.

You Absolutely Will

It's a process that begins immediately when you are free from your tormentor.  It begins with you.

The only way you can accept new joy and happiness into your life is to make space for it. If your heart is filled full-up with pain and hurt, how can you be open to anything new?

People who hold on to these past hurts often relive the pain over and over in their minds. Sometimes a person can even get “stuck” in this pain, in this hurt, in this blame. In the role of the Victim.

I don't want you to get stuck in the role of the Victim.  It's so unhealthy and you only have one life, this one right now.  Do you really want to spend a lot of precious time living in the past?  Holding on to a situation or pain that happened long ago?  Or would you prefer to embrace the present and look forward to your future?

Let's Get Started:

Step One:  Be RAW and Let it Out!

Grieve - Let it Out - Cry - Scream - Punch a Pillow - Weep - Be Angry - Tell a Friend - Write in Your Journal - Write a Letter to Your Tormentor that you will never send - Stomp Your Feet

Have a good tantrum.  Now, take a deep breath and notice how much better you feel now that you have let it out.

Step Two: Let it Go!

Make a conscious decision to Let it Go! Hurts won't go away on their own.  You have to release them.  When you don’t make the conscious choice up-front, you end up self-sabotaging any effort to move on from this past hurt.

Step Three: Break Up With Your "Victim"

Living as a "Victim" simply means you have not taken personal responsibility for your Happiness. You are blaming others for situations and outcomes and bad feelings.  You need to take responsibility for your own happiness, and not put such power into the hands of another person. Why would you let the person who hurt you in the past have such power, right here, right now?

Step Four: Focus on Now

Now it’s time to let go. Let go of the past, and stop reliving it. Stop telling yourself that story where the protagonist — you — is forever the victim of this other person’s horrible actions. You can’t undo the past, all you can do is to make today the best day of your life.

Step Five: Forgive Them

We may not have to forget another person’s bad behaviours, but virtually everybody deserves our forgiveness. Sometimes we get stuck in our pain and our stubbornness, we can’t even imagine forgiveness. But forgiveness isn’t saying, “I agree with what you did.” Instead, it’s saying, “I don’t agree with what you did, but I forgive you anyway.”

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I know from personal experience that it's incredibly difficult to want to let go of your pain.  But when you decide that you want to and will let it go, you have taken the biggest, boldest step to your Personal Freedom and Wellness.

Join me on Thursday , September 10th where we'll dive deeply into the 5-Steps during my Hurt to Happy Success Call.

I'm going to talk in greater detail about the 5-Steps so you can enjoy the amazing benefits of breaking up with your victim mentality and step into your Big Bold Blissful life.

Title: Hurt to Happy with Susan Ball

Time: Thursday, September 10th at 8:00 pm EST (9 pm ADT)

Listening method: Phone + Web Simulcast

To attend, visit: http://iTeleseminar.com/74234505

Phone Number: (425) 440-5100

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Pin Code: 802820#

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Hurt To Happy Success Call - September 10

My mission is to encourage and support women who do not want to be defined as a victim after they have left a toxic relationship.

You are incredible and strong and I want you transcend the current support model for survivors of toxic relationships and reclaim your life before the abuse.

I'm hosting a Hurt to Happy Success call on September 10 and I'd love to have you join me. I'm going to talk the amazing benefits of breaking up with your victim mentality so you can step into your Big Bold Blissful life.

Title: Hurt to Happy with Susan Ball

Time: Thursday, September 10th at 8:00 pm EST (9 pm ADT)

Listening method: Phone + Web Simulcast

To attend, visit: http://iTeleseminar.com/74234505

Phone Number: (425) 440-5100

Local Numbers:http://InstantTeleseminar.com/Local/

Pin Code: 802820#

Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's a "Someday" Thing

Truth: People who are waiting for someday, will never reach their goals or experience their dreams.  Someday is an excuse not to take action!

When you are sitting back and saying "Someday I will leave my toxic relationship" or "Someday I will travel" or "Someday I will change jobs", you are effectively giving yourself permission to do nothing about your current situation because Someday doesn't exist!  It will never come so you remain stuck in your current and ongoing situation.

When you use "Someday", you're expressing your fear of change and the future.

Dare: Dump Someday from your vocabulary.  It doesn't belong in your life and will only hold you back from living a Big. Bold. Blissful. Life!

Write down one-big bold dream or goal that you want to make a reality. Give it a fabulous, sexy Name.  Now, Make a Date. Choose a specific Day to accomplish your dreamy goal.

Your Dream Goal Has a Name + You Can Look Forward to Your Date Together.

You are Closer to Success than You Ever Were.

7 day Challenge: 

Wake Up and Smile!

Put pen to paper & write down your big, juicy, 
dreamy goal.  

Give it a Fabulous, Sexy Name

Make a date with your dream goal.

Create a bunch of tiny small steps you will take to 
achieve your dreamy goal.

Make a date with each tiny step!

Celebrate every successful step you take along your path.

Feel Yourself Moving Toward Your Big Dream!

Make it a Great |Day!

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5-Steps to Transform from Victim to Victor

You made a courageous, big, bold decision to leave a toxic relationship and I want to congratulate you for your tenaciousness!

It takes a lot of determination and sometimes a leap of faith to finally say: "That's it, I've had enough. I'm outta here!"

Because of your fabulous decision to ditch your tormentor, you are no longer experiencing that person's daily verbal and emotional assaults. You have stepped into your Freedom and now you have two paths to choose from:

1)  The Path of the Victim:

Wallowing in self-pity, victim, sufferer, depressed, unhappy, blaming, complaining, hopeless

Falling down as victim, wallowing in self-pity,or being a sufferer reverses your big, bold, step.  Once you accept a victim-mentality you spend your precious time looking for someone to blame or complaining in general.

It is a no-win model! There is no value in continuing to focus on the whys, maybes, and what ifs. It is not a healing model.  It’s a model that keeps your tied to your toxic relationship and living in the past.

2) The Path of the Victor:

Survivor, Thriver, Victor, Courageous, Confident, Inspired, Happy, Grateful, Hopeful

Choose the Path of the Victor!

Stepping into life as a Victor and the Creator of Your Own Destiny is empowering, enriching, and lifesaving.  When you're the Victor, you see each step you take in your healing journey as progress. You don't look back or want to find explanations for the past.  You want to experience your life, your way, in the present moment while creating your amazing future.

Life is short.  Sometimes it can be cut even shorter.  When you emerge as a Victor ready to take on the challenge of claiming responsibility for your life and your actions, you don't waste precious time rehashing the past looking for answers because you're way too busy having fun, setting goals, and seeing your future as an adventure of your making.

The victor is not afraid to fail, or feel uncomfortable by the effort required to work hard and succeed.

5-Steps to Transform From Victim to Victor

Step One - Gratitude, Gratitude and More Gratitude

There is always something to be grateful for.  The smallest of things bring me the greatest gratitude. When you are “stuck” or feeling down, gratitude will provide the way out.  Gratitude puts situations into perspective. When we can see the good as well as the bad, it becomes more difficult to complain and stay stuck.  Gratitude focuses our attention on what we have.

Step Two - Let it Go!

What can I release? Let go of?  I bet you're holding on to all kinds of negative junk.  The junk you're holding on to is cluttering your mind and your path forward.  Yeah, that's the truth! The things you hold on to, bear grudges or perhaps feel angry and hurt about cloud your mind and prevent you from being the best you can be.

Step Three - Building Your Relationship with Authentic You

The authentic self is the real, genuine you. It is the you that is buried deep and is the very core of your being. The authentic self is a culmination of all things that are you – knowledge, talents, skills, attitude, and perspective. It isn’t defined by your placement in a family unit or career. 

Finding the truth about who you really are and what is important to you takes honesty, awareness, and some time. 

Step Four - Get in Front of Your Challenges

It is so easy to get stopped dead in your tracks when you start to think about all the challenges in your path.  In fact, when you overthink your “to do” list, you could give up on your journey and I don’t want you to do that!

Challenges are everywhere in your life.  It’s not the challenge that will keep you stuck, it’s how you handle it.  And the best way to handle challenges is to get out in front of them.

Step Five - Embrace Your Possibilities

One of the most powerful tools anyone can use on a daily basis is Positive Affirmations. Every time you write or say your affirmation, you are reinforcing your new positive belief and overwriting your old negative one.

You're Ready to Thrive: Live Life Fearlessly

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Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's a Smile Thing

Truth: Take some time today to observe people and notice how many have frowns, or grumpy faces, or worried, hurried expressions.  And then look for the people who are smiling or have a relaxed, happy looking face.

I do this everyday and I'm constantly surprised that the grumps outnumber the happys!  

Smiling is contagious, sexy and wants to be done all the time! 

Dare: Add an over-abundance of smiling to your day!  There is no limit to the number of times your can smile each day.  There is no bad side effects.

The only effect that smiling will have on your day is elevating your joy factor.  Period.

Oh, one other big,huge, benefit:  When you smile at someone, you share joy and that's a good thing!

7 day Challenge: 

Wake Up and Smile!

Continue smiling throughout your day

Commit to smiling at one stranger every day.

Get your grumpy face off and put your smiling face on.

Smiling is easy, attractive, sexy, and contagious - Do It!

Make it a Great |Day!

Victim or Victor? Which One Will You Choose?

Choose Wisely.  There is a tremendous amount of Power in One Word.

When my toxic-violent relationship ended, I was thrust into the "victim" services mentality which is, unfortunately, the prevalent and preferred way of handling survivors of abuse.

Being labelled a Victim almost killed me.  Being a Victim almost robbed me of the amazing life I have created for myself.  I would have loved to have known the power of being a Victor.  My journey would have been shorter and less self-destructive.

You are only a victim while it's happening.  Victimness is fleeting. Let yourself be a victim for too long and you will rob yourself of a big, bold, ballsy life.

Stepping away from someone who is abusing you is a courageous and "victorious" act. You are now a Victor. You are free of your tormentor, you a strong, worthwhile woman who is capable of achieving anything you set your mind to.

After all, you just walked away from your abuser.  Nothing shouts Victor louder than that!

Claiming your Victor status, immediately puts the incident in the past where it belongs and keeps you moving forward.


Mindset Shifting From Victim to Victor

Victim - I can't believe that happened to me.  I wish I knew why then I might be able to fix what's wrong with me

Victor - It happened, it felt like shit and I left.  I am capable of putting me first and I'm worth it

Victim - I wonder what other people think about me. They probably see me as weak and going nowhere in my life

Victor - I had the courage to leave my abuser.  That makes me a self-confident and amazing woman. I think I'm fabulous and only what I think about myself matters.

Victim - I thought my relationship was forever.  I found the love of my life and now I'm lonely, sad and angry.  Why?  I will never find love.

Victor - I will look forward and heal my relationship with myself.  I will love me and all my imperfections.  Then, and only then, I will be able to invite a partner to share my life if I choose to!


The healing power of shifting your mindset to Victor is extremely powerful and will push you and keep you moving forward.

When you are a Victor, your life is full of limitless opportunities and possibilities

Be Better     Be Confident      Be Bold     Be Ballsy     Be Happy

You Did It!        You Are a Victor!

Move Forward Toward Your Dreams and Keep Going Until You Reach Them

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Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's a Joy Thing

Truth: Life is meant to be enjoyed. Happiness is a beautiful, creative state of mind. Happiness is strongly linked to PLAY! Just look at children playing, they're laughing, smiling and joyful.  When you sit and watch a group playing any sport or game, they are completely living in the moment.  And Living in the Moment is where you want to be living.

As adults, we have lost touch with play and that's sad.  Our lack of spontaneous laughter, movement and engagement with others has led to increased levels of stress and depression.  

Playing is holistic medicine and it calls for a daily prescription. 

Dare: Add PLAY to your day. Dance. Skip. Be Spontaneous. Swing. Get a group of friends together for a game of good old-fashioned tag or touch football. There are many ways to add Play to your day. 

Yesterday, Charley (my wee dog) and I went to the park and I spontaneously decided to go for a swing.  It was amazing!  I smiled as soon as I started to go higher.  The kids joined in and we laughed and challenged each other. 

For the rest of the day, I felt energized and couldn't help but smile every time I thought about swinging in the fresh air.

7 day Challenge: 

Wake Up and Smile!

Commit to adding Play time 

to your day.

Sing, Move, Play catch at lunch, Sit on the Swings 

 

Plan a "Play Day" at work or with friends and family!

Sign up for a sport you played as a kid.  Get out there and play.

Make it a Great |Day!

How will you add PLAY to your Day?  

Add your ideas to the comments and let's begin to play and have fun and Smile.