I have clients who will say to me I want to be like you to which I respond You Can with a little work and authenticity! There is no magic pill, potion or spell that I can prescribe that will make you get up in the morning with a smile on your face looking forward to the day as an adventure in the making. The prescription writer is YOU!
Not too long ago I found myself dreading the mornings. I would wake up thinking yuck, another friggin' day, when will this end, what is the purpose of getting up! I was dreary to say the least with absolutely no plans for the future and nothing to look forward to. I was on the cusp of filling my prescription for anti-depressants. I was low and the few friends I had probably hated to hear from me.
I had no money. I had a dead-end job in a big shiny corporate office. I squeezed myself into a subway car at a god-awful hour of the morning to be surrounded by miserable looking lemmings. I had a relationship that had run its course. I had decided that my present and future would be lonely, broke, and defeated.
Sound Familiar?!? I'm sure there are folks reading this right now who can relate to how I was feeling about life and you're wondering how did I turn it around.
It started with a good and true friend. They are the friends who ask you the hard questions. These are the friends you want. Tip: Get rid of the nodders! Nodders are your "pretend" friends - the ones who nod and agree with everything you say.
We were having a coffee and I was doing my usual life is so rotten, I hate my life, blah, blah, blah. She kept asking me one question:
So, What Are You Going to Do About It?
What a stupid, irritating question! I was livid. I wanted her to find the solution for me, NOW! For some odd reason, my friend wouldn't cooperate and kept asking me that question. I went home and decided I would not be friends with her anymore which of course, added to my Down on Life Story.
A strange thing was happening though.....I couldn't get that question out of my head! When I would think about my finances and wanted to wallow in self-pity, this little voice would ask "Well, Susan, what are you going to do about it?" The question followed me everyday and everywhere. I wanted to answer the question just so it would go away!
Because of my encounter with a true friend, I learned two very important steps to get me on my way to writing a new chapter. To begin writing yours, complete these steps:
- Honestly think about your friends and family and determine who are the "nodders". Nodders will not help you in your journey. Drop them from your friends list and replace them with true friends who will ask you to be accountable to you.
- When you find yourself feeling down because you're thinking about your debts, or how you will never be able to travel to Australia, or how you will be stuck in your dead-end job forever,
STOP, take a deep breath and ask
"So, ____________, what are you going to do about it?
Remove the nodders and keep asking "what am I going to do about this" and you're on your way to writing a new chapter in your life. Oh, and feeling so much better about all the opporuntities that are waiting for you!
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