Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's a Living in the Moment Thing

Truth:  Do you take the time to enjoy the moment you are living, right now?  Or do you sit down to your supper, rush through it because you have to get to the next "thing"?

The truth that I hear everyday from clients is that they are rushing toward something else or holding on to something that happened in the past.  Neither equals living in the moment.

Living in the moment means that you are focused on enjoying your time, your day, the conversation you are having, the food, the sites, nature, spontaneous laughter, alone time, a great tune on the radio!  

You're not looking forward or backward.  You are just being in the moment.

You can reduce stress, anxiety and enjoy your life much more when you adopt a Live in the Moment attitude.

When you are feeling depressed or unworthy, you are living in the past.  

When you are feeling anxious or stressed, you are living in the future.

Dare:  When you start to feel depressed, unworthy, anxious or stressed, immediately turn your focus to what you are doing right now, this moment.

If you are doing the dishes, focus on the feeling of the water, the colours in the soap bubbles, the warm water and how sparkly the dishes are when they're clean.

If you are outside or stuck in traffic, look around you at the natural world.  Focus your attention on the trees, people, animals, colours, sky, etc.  Notice them, Enjoy them.  

If you are eating a meal, focus on each bite; the flavours, textures, smells.  Really enjoy each and every bite.

When you have adopted Living in the Moment as your way of being, you will notice that you are feeling happier and daily life is easier and simpler.

7 day Challenge: 

Wake Up and Smile!

Commit to Living in the Moment for

at least 15 minutes each day

See, Feel, Hear, Smell, and Taste 

 

Celebrate all the amazing stuff you took the time to notice!

Make it a Great |Day!

Kick Your Life up to Thriver = Big, Bold & Ballsy

There are some who say that getting to the level of "survivor" is good enough.  I say no way, not a chance.  Putting your life into "thriver" gear is where you want it to be.

After my experience with an abusive husband, I truly believed that my end-game was to go from victim to survivor and be happy with that.  It was great to be a survivor for a while.  But I felt uninspired.  Something was missing and I was caught asking myself: WOW! I did all that work to get here and now I'm a little bored.

I discovered that I wanted more from life.  I wanted to be more than a survivor, I wanted to Thrive.  I wanted a big, bold, ballsy life where I flourished.

If you have gotten yourself all the way to the level of survivor, then challenge yourself to take your life all the way up to thriver.  You'll be so happy you did.

Survivor versus Thriver

S:  Feels she doesn't deserve nice things & will never have a happy, fulfilling life

T:  She wakes up and feels Gratitude for everything in life.  She knows how to Make it a Great Day!

S:  She has low self-esteem and still has moments where she feels unworthy, guilt or ashamed.


T:  A vibrant woman who sees herself as an inspired, confident, and fabulous person.  She knows that she is worthy of all the happiness, laughter, joy and adventure that is now part of her everyday life.

S:  Her own needs are right at the bottom.  Saying no is almost impossible.  She wants everyone to like her and avoids conflict at all costs.


T:  The thriving woman places herself first because she knows that a happy, nourished self is the best one.

Once you're a thriver, your emotional, mental and physical health will be optimum.  Daily irritations will turn into daily smiles and laughs.  You will enjoy being with people. Equally, you will enjoy your own company and being on your own.

You've already come a long way on your healing journey.  Stretching your goal to thriver is not far-fetched.  It's completely doable.

Being a survivor is only a stepping-stone on your healing journey. Choose to take one more step and push your life into "thriver" gear.  

You are so worth it + you deserve it.

Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's a Doing Thing

Truth:  How many times have you said "I wish ......"?   I wish I could travel more.  I wish I had a better job, more money, self-confidence, my own business, and so on.

Some wishes are about feelings or fears.  I wish I was braver, empathetic, happier, less anxious.

Wishing doesn't make it so.  Wishing won't make it happen.  If you want to travel, then you have to change your wishing to doing.

Turn your wish into a goal and then DO the steps to achieve it!

Dare:  A wish is a dream without any goals.  It will remain a wish until you put in steps to do it.  

Think of one thing that you really wish to do - travel, move, be an entrepreneur, singer, actor, writer, artist, go back to school.  Write it down.  Set the date you will DO IT!

Look at the date and start writing your steps.  Your first step will be small and create the foundation.  Move forward. Set a goal. Make a plan, then move forward. The steps may be small, but move forward. That's the only way the dream becomes a reality. Move forward. 

Each step will build until your wish becomes your do.

When you finish one of your steps, celebrate!  You are one step closer to achieving your dream.  You are gonna DO IT!

7 day Challenge: 

Wake Up and Smile!

Write down one wish: I wish I could travel to Paris

Set the date you will be in Paris

Write out the steps to get you there

Celebrate each successful step you take

Have Fun In Paris 

 

Celebrate your ballsy spirit!

Make it a Great |Day!

Want to Kick Your Life Beyond Surviving into Thriving?

You Can't Thrive Until You Define What it Means to You! 

You Need to Define What Your Life Would Look Like When You're Thriving.  You Need to Make it Juicy!

Define It:  What Does Thrive Mean to You?

Happiness, success, fulfillment, and thriving are all emotional states that we strive to achieve.  But we make one huge critical error = we never define exactly what it means.

I hear clients say - I want to be happy!  Well, what does that mean to you?  I want to be successful!  What does that mean to you? And so on.

I want you to define what it means to be thriving.

The definition is personal.  It belongs to you and you only.  Once you have your personal Thrive meaning, no one can take it away from you.

You will become laser focused on making it happen.

Thrive = to progress toward or realize a goal despite or because of circumstances 

Get specific and write down what "thriving" will look like in these areas of your life:

• Career, Work and Business
• Health and Well-being
• Friendships
• Relationships 
• Spiritual
• Community
• Finances

Feel free to add or delete areas + make them personally reflect your current life situation.

Include details, lots of luscious details in your definition:

What will you feel?  What will you see?  hear? Smell?  Taste? 

Can you see the difference between these two definitions?

1. When I'm thriving I will own a 4,000 square foot house = boring!

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2. When I'm thriving I will own a home that has a beautiful open foyer with a large crystal chandelier shining brightly from the centre of the ceiling.  As I walk to the kitchen, I will smell yummy chocolate chip cookies baking and hear the faint sound of Queen on the radio.  I love Queen.  My new home will be filled with love, vibrant happy colours and the sound of music and laughter.

Definition #2 = Amazing!!  Now you want to achieve owning that house.  It speaks to you and you only.  It represents thriving to you. It's your home, your vision and no one can take something so vibrant away from you.

Your Kick Ass I'm Going to Thrive Challenge:

1. Get your pen and paper and start writing your "thrive" definition for any and all areas of your life that you choose.
2. Make your definition personal.  Thriving is all about your individual happiness and how you choose to define it.
3. Make it so vibrant that when you read your definition, you're smiling the whole time!  Yup, you're smiling because it's happening.
4. Focus on the amazing image and set out to make it happen.  You can do it.  Step into the magic zone and out of your comfort zone. 

Choose to Thrive: Live Life Fearlessly

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Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's a Magic Thing

Truth:  Sadly, the vast majority of us spend our days living in our "comfort zone".  We get up in the morning go to work, do as we're asked, go home using the same route, stop at the same grocery store to pick up dinner, get home, eat supper, watch tv and go to bed.  Next morning we repeat the same routine.  It's all ho-hum routine.

We dream about something, anything different.  Travel.  Being self-employed.  Going to the theatre. Taking a class.  Doing improv.  Signing up to act in the next community theatre production.  Bungy jump.  Sky dive.  Drive a monster truck.

You dream, you wish, you want but nothing changes.  

Dare:  Wake up each and every day and choose to do something outside of your comfort zone.  It can be a small simple step in to the magic zone.  That's okay.  Just do it!

Choose something for supper you have never cooked before and then do it.  If it tastes terrible, smile, laugh, learn and make a peanut butter sandwich.  Nothing has been lost and everything has been gained.

You have shown yourself that you are ready to step out your comfort zone and embrace the true magic of your life.

7 day Challenge: 

Wake Up and Smile!

Decide to step out of your comfort zone

Do It!  

Celebrate your ballsy spirit!

Make it a Great |Day!

DISCOVERY SESSION  Contact me for a no-obligation session where we will get to know each other – click Book Now for my online scheduling calendar to find a suitable day and time.  The 30 minute Discovery Session is Free.  Invest the time to book the call - you’re worth it! 

A Big, Bold, Blissful Life Begins with I Am, I Can and I Will

Add Positive Power Statements to Your Daily Routine

Positive Power Statements boost your confidence which is the building block of your success and your ability to focus squarely on what you want to achieve, do, and be in your life.

Positive Power Statements put you in the driver's seat of your life!  They build your confidence + feed your desires and that equals you living a big, bold, ballsy life that you have designed just for you.

Not having self-confidence impacts every aspect of your life: 

• How you react to negative people 
• Whether or not you change careers
• Go back to school
• Leave a negative relationship
• Stand up for your authenticity and joy and happiness
• Actively participate in events, sports and with friends

Your self-confidence is your foundation and you build your life, success, happiness and pure joy on it.  If your foundation has weak spots, your ability to let go, chase your dreams and find pure joy in living, is significantly diminished!

To begin repairing your foundation, add these empowering statements to your daily routine:

Every day, twice a day, write Positive Power Statements that begin with:

I am, I Can, and I Will.  

I recommend doing this in the morning and just before bed. 

These may seem like very simple statements but their impact on your confidence will be complex. Your life and all the amazing opportunities that are waiting, will bloom and you will wake up excited to create your day.

While you are writing your Positive Power Statements, you are discovering all the great things about you.  And that will change your view of you and your life.  Start today and notice the shift.

Here are mine from this morning:

I Am Grateful for the Abundance in my Life

I Can Achieve my Goals  

I Will Live in Italy

Jump into the Facebook Group and share your Positive Power Statements.

Choose to make it a Great Day!

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DISCOVERY SESSION  Contact me for a no-obligation session where we will get to know each other – click Book Now for my online scheduling calendar to find a suitable day and time.  The 30 minute Discovery Session is Free.  Invest the time to book the call - you’re worth it! 

Tuesday Truth or Dare: It's a Gossip Thing

Truth:  She is such a bitch!  Look at her outfit can you imagine wearing that!?  My boss is a nasty cheating jerk!  Did you see the way she treated so and so?  She's pregnant again!  How can they afford another child?!

It's all gossip, rumour, innuendo, judgement and it's TOXIC!  

Gossiping is toxic to your personal wellbeing and mood.  Gossip causes stress, guilt, uncertainty, anxiety and distrust.  these are not good feelings to have for your day!  

Participating in gossip has negative consequences for your emotional, mental and physical health.  Bet you thought it was harmless!

Dare:  Consciously decide that you will not participate in any form of gossip.  You won't start the gossip.  You won't listen to gossip.  You won't engage with gossip.  You will remove yourself from gossipy situations.  

Remember:  When you're gossiping about someone, someone else is gossiping about you!

You will begin a Healthy Gossip-Free Lifestyle!

7 day Challenge: 

Wake Up and Smile!

I Declare Myself Gossip Free!

Make it a Great |Day!