Truth: Should is one of the dirtiest words in the English language. It's only outcome is making you feel horrible about yourself, your abilities, your intentions, what you chose to wear today! Oh, and shouldn't is equally as bad. Must and mustn't or the older version - ought and oughtn't are the same. So don't even think about changing should for a must or ought!
Shoulding all over yourself creates a negative mindset. Period. When you think you should do something or other, your immediate emotions are guilt and anxiety because you're not doing what you think you "should" be doing.
Dare: Listen to your shoulds and shouldn'ts. Write them down and change should for want or will or can. For example, if you are shoulding about losing a few pounds, or quitting smoking, or having lunch with someone you really don't like, then change your words to:
I want to or will lose 5 pounds by the end of the month
I will cut down from 20 cigs a day to 5 by the end of the month
I will call her and we'll meet for a nice breakfast
7 day Challenge:
Commit to listening for your shoulds and shouldn'ts!
When you hear yourself shoulding, immediately change to a positive action word - want, will, or can!
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