Every day, I work with coaching clients who say all the right things and then do the exact opposite. They hope to experience growth, but they resist change. They want less stress, yet they indulge in drama. They long for better relationships, and then they refuse to trust anyone.
In other words, what they say they want and what they do with their time are disconnected. It’s important to note, though, that I get it. I understand where my clients are coming from.
I used to make the same mistakes. Change is hard to deal with. Needless drama can be addictive. Relationships take a lot of work. I’m sure you can relate.
In a nutshell, we're stuck in the same familiar patterns and comfortable routines.
Wake Up - Repeat!
Think about it. We ultimately become what we repeatedly do. It's breaking the pattern and changing your routine that will cause the positive changes you're seeking in your life.
To Break Away, Add these Changes to Your Daily Routine and Your New Pattern Will Be:
Wake Up - Smile - Make a Positive Change - Repeat
Exercise your Integrity.
Living with integrity means: Not settling for less than what you are capable of. Communicating clearly and asking for what you want and need from people. Speaking your truth, even when others judge you for it. Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your morals and values. Making choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe.
Steer clear of drama and those who create it.
There comes a time in life when you have to let go of all the needless drama and the people who create it. Staying out of other people’s drama is an incredibly effective way to stress less and smile more.
Let It Go! Let Them Go!
Be positive and spend time with positive people.
Happiness is not the absence of problems, but the ability to deal with them. Raise your awareness to your own inner strength and positivity. You are in charge of how you react to the people and events in your life. You can either give negativity power over your life, or you can choose to be positive instead by focusing on the great things that are truly important. So talk about your blessings more than you talk about your problems. Just because you’re struggling doesn’t mean you’re failing.
Be You.
Too many of us prefer gentle lies to hard truths. But make no mistake, in the end it’s better to be hurt by the truth than comforted by a lie.
Don’t try to be what “they” like – be who you are. The people worth spending time with will be genuinely interested in spending time with you - warts and all. And that works out well, because you won’t be happy being anyone else.
Remove Your Labels.
“Human” is the only real label we are born with. Yet we forget so easily.
To become attached to a negative label like depressed, divorced, diseased, rejected, or poor, you believe that's who you are and how you are defined. These are negative labels.
Switch them to Positive Labels - Label Yourself capable, confident, worthy, loveable valuable, happy, grateful - keep going, you're doing great!
Ask yourself the right questions.
What questions are you asking yourself? Are they helping you better understand your purpose? Or do they have your mind spinning in circles?
Questions act as guideposts and they have a powerful influence on the direction of your life. The questions you hear most often come directly from YOU. So instead of looking outside yourself for answers, start asking yourself the right questions. For instance…
- “Who am I?”
- “What do I want?”
- “What are my labels?”
- “What do I want to give?”
- “What’s the next step I can take right now?”
It’s all about self-inquiry. That's how you will stay true to your principles, pursue your desires, grow through adversity, and add value to the world around you.
Notice the changes that have happened and celebrate each success. At the end of the day, write your personal "I Did It" list. You will be amazed at how successful you are and you will see how small changes are positively worth it.
About Susan Ball: Susan inspires her clients to live the life of their dreams with passion, joy, and love. Susan is an experienced international Life Coach helping people discover and live their ideal life through NLP, Mindfulness, and G.R.A.C.E.
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